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Crazy indeed. I live very close to Gonzo, which means I end up seeing him a lot more than my other partners and friends. More than that, I also feel very relaxed around him and yet find that I really need to temper my attachment to him. We've been fooling around for only a few months and I just...

Foxes are an easy representation of my playful, spirited, and sometimes wild nature. I'm small, flexible, and independent but social. I also think the word "vixen" is a sexy word, so I wanted to play off that. What a cool thread.

It's been a while. Last I posted, I was just dealing with my first break up. I figured I would give an update for those that helped me so much in dealing with my own emotions. To recap: I am 24, cis-female, straight, and was in a monogamous relationship for four years with Guardian. We met by...

Thanks all for the kind and honest words. This is... very difficult. Partner, who I guess I need a new nickname for, is taking everything really hard. On one hand, the freedom feels good. It's getting easier to see how much control I had allowed over my own choices and my life. On the other...

Well, I didn't realize this, but when we had the relationship talk the reality never really dawned on either of us. The idea of a "break" was definitely a crutch, and not a very good one. Last night we got into an argument. We were out with friends, and on the way back I thought he had sped...

I didn't exactly draw boundaries with Gamer Guy like I did with Party Guy. I didn't really think it was necessary because we only engaged with some harmless flirting. Do I need to set boundaries with everyone I flirt with? I was planning on it if things escalate at all. I did tell him that. He...

Well, I've been being careful and avoiding reciprocating flirting. Partner decided to read my phone again. He claimed the messages he saw were "right there" but that still means he unlocked my phone when he saw a friend, I'll call him Gamer Guy, had texted me. Partner read the flirtatious...

Why not write a short story, or a screenplay even. Get all of those neat images out of your brain before you forget them.

This community amazes me. I read every thread hoping I can offer someone else some support like I've received, but it's obvious that there is such a wealth of experience here that I really don't have yet. Your thoughts are so, so appreciated. No need to be sorry; you were sharing your...

I'm really not trying to be selfish by remaining in this relationship. I legitimately enjoy the time we spend together. I love our conversations, I love our life. To some extent I recognize that this is my safe bubble, and I fear stepping beyond it. But it's more that I worry about the terrible...

Your points are heard, as difficult as they are to read. However I need to clarify that Partner is NOT paying for schooling. I have a savings account that can only be used for living expenses while at school. So, were we to separate now, I would have nowhere to stay.

I was afraid of people saying this. Logistically speaking I cannot break up now; I have a cat and am financially dependent on Partner. Every time I think there's hope, he'll say something so naive. He still thinks LDR is no big deal, that it isn't going to significantly change the relationship...

Yeah, playing mind reader is quickly becoming the story of my relationship with Partner, particularly in this area. Last night I came home when I said I would, but I found the futon converted into bed mode in the living room and no word from Partner, even though it was before his bedtime and he...

I guess that's definitely the hardest part of all of this. I feel like I must be openly broadcasting my desire for an alternative relationship model to men, since they seem to know I have no idea where my own limits are. What you said makes a lot of sense. Fair enough. It's not really a...

I posted previously but things feel a bit different now and I need some advice. I'm in a long term relationship with Partner, who is monogamous. We have halted the poly discussion as I'm pretty sure at this point he has no desire to work toward opening up. Meanwhile, I go out to parties and...

You are not alone. Losing trust in yourself and feeling the kind of confusion you describe is something I just went through when I kissed someone else while in a long-term, stable relationship. It is okay to feel insecure. It is okay to feel jealous. Do not shame or guilt-trip yourself because...

It does feel like he is clinging to some semblance of control. However, the other night I took everyone's suggestions and set my own time to be home by. He did not express any hurt or offense, and I kept my promise to him. I was even home a bit early. I realize now how staying out past a time...

Curfew was a word he used, but you're all right. It's got parental connotations. There has always been a bit of push and pull regarding Partner's natural tendency to try to "guide" me with greater wisdom. I'll stop using it. When Partner and I have talked about setting a time for me to come...

This can probably be moved to the Blogs section since I'm now primarily providing updates rather than encouraging broader discussion; I'm extremely thankful for comments. It is incredibly helpful to get perspective. Some positive changes have happened in my relationship with Partner. We both...

Thank you so much GalaGirl; your insights into people who don't want to open up emotionally were very helpful for the past couple weeks while I've been trying to deal with the "I'm fine" routine. I no longer view it as lying directly to me; he's creating a barrier in order to internally process...