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A very relaxing, very decadent weekend with Boy happened. Sport is going well. First competition for me happened and LG moved up a level. She has been placing on the lower end, but still placing, which is amazing. Her hard work is being recognized by people outside of our small group 💖 Hubby...

As a married poly person... I'm looking for someone whose personality meshes with mine and whose schedule can work with mine. Most married poly men don't fit that BECAUSE... schedules fucking suck. I've also had my share of experiences with wives/cohabiting partners ending up having a major...

I would worry about baby momma dragging polyamory/ your recent divorce then quick marriage into the custody case. If the lawyer isn't worried about it, though, you must live in a good location for nontraditional families. As for marriage creating equality in a relationship? Eh. I don't buy it...

But if someone is bad/unsafe for spouse? You've mentioned some pretty serious sounding mental health concerns in the not so distant past. Is having partner around your shared space worth the risk of spouse having another crisis? Honestly, this is why I don't get involved with non-polyam...

How old is your child and how long have you been seeing your newer partner? Is that a factor at all for having the newer person in your shared home? Genuinely curious. I'm typically a "safe space" believer. If my partner or kid isn't comfortable with someone in their home? That person doesn't...

You'd be surprised at how stealthy some kids are lol

Swinging/casual sex partners/fwbs ARE friends. It isn't lying to your kids to only tell or show them the age appropriate parts of your friendships. Now if you're having another full, romantic relationship.. Why not be honest? It isn't really different than a single parent dating. If they're...

A triad is one of the hardest relationship structures to maintain. Is there a reason you're set on that instead of just meeting people and allowing the relationships to develop naturally however they feel right?

How often is she sleeping over? Once a week? Twice? More?

A gnarly cold worked its way through the family. I am feeling physically and emotionally exhausted. I've gained back about 20 of the almost 50 pounds I lost so I am trying to be more intentional about my intake again without becoming calorie obsessed. That and going to bed on time with likely...

Nothing new happening lately. We are all eager for holiday traditions. Picking out a tree was a blast with LG having more of an opinion this year. Gifts are multiplying way too quickly so since her love language is gift giving. All adults would rather not add clutter, but it's hard to say no...

I am terrible about journaling these days! Hubby got covid a couple of months ago. He felt much worse than the rest of us did. It inspired him briefly to try to lose weight/get healthier in general but once work got busy again that got forgotten. We do have a workout area in our garage now which...

Being transparent from the get go is an honesty thing. If you start a potential relationship off with a lie, you're starting off with a huge sign that you're not trustworthy. Not mentioning relationship status at all would be better, but I know that's not an option on most online dating sites.

A faint line was the end of testing positive for me. Any color in the line indicates infection. If it's just a grayish or indent line with no color, then it's inconclusive. I had a very very faint positive one day then a negative the next at the end of my isolation period when I had covid...

LG ended up getting covid as well. Only symptoms were identical to her allergy symptoms so hard to say if it was the virus or the dogwood. Boy also had it, and I was upset he chose not to quarantine with me. His housemates are moderately paranoid due to being extremely high risk and opted to...

Honestly... my life DOES revolve around my relationships, but not just romantic ones. Kid stuff takes priority then my partners and I are all equals. Not meaning we all get the same thing but we all get our needs met in a triage kind of arrangement. I can only see Boy on weekends so he gets...

If he's not close to his family, why would you expect to be? If you're not out, how are they supposed to know to invest effort in you like they (might) do for other partners? I get that it can feel alienating, but that's the price of being in the closet. Building up any kind of resentment...

Meeting other polyam people isn a great step! I would warn you (and your "wife") against falling into the mindset that she will ONLY ever be interested in women because you fulfil her bisexual desire for men but she doesn't have an outlet for her bisexual desire for women. As a bi person who is...

How long have you identified as polyam? How long have you been with your partner?

Covid day 2 - raging fever and a cough every time I talk more than one short sentence or walk more than a few steps. I'm so happy my sense of taste hasn't been affected. Everyone still negative except one person I saw over the weekend. I see her 3ish times a week, so it's likely we were...