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Am I the only person who watched it and found it lame?

Disagreement is fine. Speaking directly to an issue is fine. Nobody is required to be warm and fuzzy; as long as comments are directed properly to statements and behaviors and don't appear to be made just to troll, we're fine with them.

No, this isn't a wide open discussion site. We expect posters to discuss in a civilized fashion. Follow the guidelines and all is well; flout them and expect consequences.

I know it's past when this was supposed to happen. I'll offer this up for future reference. I'd *never* meet with a FM in circumstances such as this. To do so is to enable further bad behavior. How does that enable bad behavior? By agreeing to meet with a such an agenda, you're communicating...

Actually, no, you aren't a unicorn. A unicorn has to be actively looking to get involved with a couple. You weren't actively seeking a couple, so you don't quite qualify. Not that that's a bad thing. There's nothing better about being a unicorn and finding a couple than not being a unicorn and...

It's rather difficult to be harsh to an idea. I commented on the idea without any suggestion that he might be deficient for offering it up. His response was, at best, a simple logical fallacy (strawman), and at worst, aimed at me instead of the ideas in play. Criticism of an idea is AOK...

Some reason for the jackassery? I pointed out that a widely spread meme is all sorts of wrong because it obviously isn't accurate and sucks as a generalization. I never said others couldn't have a different experience. Why take a shot at me via the strawman?

I received a message about a week ago that opened with this: "Poly Pagan & Weird? SIGN ME UP! ...." She had my attention completely from the outset. I responded and we've traded numerous messages. We have a date sometime next week (the specific time yet to be decided).

Is "The Game" that nonsense about not finding a relationship if you're looking for one? That's so much hokum. I've never found a relationship without looking for one. Ever. I have never started a relationship when I wasn't looking for one.

That sounds absolutely marvelous!

I have to say that this strikes me as quite silly. Romantic involvement and platonic involvement are not alike and won't ever be alike simply because they are different forms of bonding. Any serious romantic involvement will also include attachment, which is part of platonic relationships...

I am part of a poly community, though it's not intended as a poly community. I'm part of a Pagan UUA congregation that happens to have a large percentage of regulars who happen to be poly. The rest appear to be poly-friendly. So, while it's not explicitly a poly community, nobody has to...

That is a very important question to answer. You have my attention.

I think that's a pile of shit. What an asinine assertion!

You're certainly *not* looking for a monogamous relationship if you want to be involved with two men at the same time--the latter precludes the former. I suspect you mean that you're interested in a fidelitous relationship with two men. Welcome aboard.

Tell him to get his ass to the doctor and get his testosterone level checked. Total testosterone level and free testosterone level. If he's not feeling like himself, there may be a medical reason. (And low testosterone can become a hellish experience if not treated.)

Here's the thing: if he's interested in having multiple loving relationships, then he can claim to be polyamorous. If he's interested in just fucking lots of folks, then the claim of a sex addiction appears to be much more accurate. Simply based on what you've written, I'd say the latter is...

This is your issue. Please don't try to make it theirs in any way, shape, or form. Seriously, relationships work best when personal issues don't get imposed on others willy-nilly. Have you tried to unpack your feelings on the matter? Most folks experience a bunch of emotions at the same time...

I'd say he should worry about meeting new potential partners and finding a spark with one before he worries much about the rest. It's only when a potential partner is actually showing interest that any of it matters. Then it's time to point out that he's polyamorous. It doesn't seem to really...

Welcome aboard.