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I saw Blue Eyes last night. I had been working up to bringing up being poly and I still haven't come right out and said it, but I suspect that will happen today. I asked Dean if he minded if I went out (in general), next Dean said "are you going out with Blue Eyes?" I smiled big and said "can...

4 days ago Dean asked me if I wanted to see BlueEyes. It was kinda out of the blue, I was about to fall asleep actually. I answered him yes, that I would like to see BlueEyes and that it would just be for a hang and normally I wouldn't wait for his permission to hang out with a friend, but that...

Thanks. I just know even Dean would be uncomfortable with the idea that he"allows" me to do things. That's just not how our dynamic works. It's necessary though, for now and it works.

No problem. I don't think I ever specified where BlueEyes was and it seems a lot of poly relationships involve some LDR. That's my impression from reading other people's stories anyways.

I wanted to share something that is making me feel proud of myself. I am practicing self control and working within my boundaries. I'm not someone who usually doesn't practice self control, but it has always been hard for me to fight impulses of the heart. They feel so urgent and important. BUT...

We are all in the same city. We know people in common. It would easily look like I'm cheating on Dean with BlueEyes. As a matter of fact a concerned friend already texted Dean about it, expressing his "condolences" for "having to go through this". Dean set him straight, but yeah his first...

It's ok. I am slightly curious how I compare, but one of the thongs I did was purposely not count partners so I'd have to make a list if I wanted to compare stats. Maybe someday, but not today.

I'm one of those wives that has approached her husband about polyamory and I really appreciate the sharing I have read from the husband's perspective, your perspective. It also looks like you attracted the advice of all the members who have been offering me the best advice. I've learned a lot...

Hi, I'm new too. Welcome to the forum, it's been so helpful to me. I hope you find what you need also.

Very cool! and thanks for sharing your joy :)

Thank you all for sharing. This is exactly what I was wondering and you did a beautiful job answering it.

Dean came home last night to me washing dishes, put down his work bag and just started in "hey, so I listened to this podcast today". Yup, it was a poly podcast and it allowed us to talk about poly in a really casual way. It's basically been what I've been wanting to do for weeks. By the end...

I have an update. Dean and I were all pretty exhausted yesterday after driving all night from our vacation back to home. In that exhaustion I snapped and broke down crying. I expressed that I wanted to talk more about things, any things...the why are we here, what does it all mean things. We...

I have a few questions about the arms of a "V": What kind of dynamics are seen between the arms of a "V"? I'm sure it presents itself in a lot of ways, what are the ways you've experienced? How does trust form between the arms of the "V"? I'm sensing an initial distrust between Dean and Blue...

" It's ok to take up the space you do." I just wrote that in crayon on a peace of construction paper and taped it to the fridge. You're not wrong. Part of it is mono worldview, but most of it is my own brand of thinking process. I'm trying to tease out what is mono thinking, because so far...

Hi, First, welcome to the forum. I'm new here too and have found it really helpful. I hope you will too. I'm seeing a few similarities to our situations. You said that Rod is the least jealous or possessive person you've ever known and that it look a long time to actually accept that. That's...

Can we talk about mono worldview? I think that inside me I'm battling what I was told to think and what I actually think. I'm making myself feel guilty, or shame and just a general yuck. When I realized that I still get crushes, or am attracted to other people than the person I'm in a mono...

I thought the SAME thing. 8 of what kind of relationships? 8 "committed" relationships? Do you start counting with your first partner, like your jr high bf/gf? Do you keep counting until you die? If it's an average I'm thinking my mom only has only had 2 partners and relationships, I've...

You nailed it. You're lists are so helpful, thank you.

VERY sloppy, and yeah mono thinking...that's something I didn't even know I was doing. Mono thinking is something I really want to look into, even if I never live polyamorously it's worth seeing how this mono idea shapes my worldview. I only saw two choices then, leave my husband and be with...