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Lots of 20-somethings are financially insecure. That doesn't mean you have to offer one of them free rent for an undefined period, indefinitely, much less permanently. My longest-term partner (Pixi) and I agreed from the start of cohabitation that we did not want to share our home with any...

So, my dissertation aside, was all of this part just about being a gay guy, and fearing you'll be forced into a marriage with a woman? Are you in danger of that?

Oh, good call. I see they did say they were gay/non-binary in the OP here. Forgot. Thanks. Stupidly, polyamory.com makes us chose male or female as a gender, and nothing else, so I am not sure which pronoun to use. I'm non-binary, but I use she/her, myself. (I hardly ever read profiles without...

No. There are limits to how badly Fern acts towards Daisy, and towards Cavefox her/themself, before she/they breaks up with Daisy, if it come to that. That can be discussed, but that doesn't address Cavefox's own autonomy. And it probably triggers her/their fears around impinging on Daisy's...

I'm sorry if it upset you! I like to talk about sex; it's one of my favorite topics. Lots of people would rather do it than talk about it, admit their desires, analyze biases, etc. I think it's possible to have a much more fulfilling sex life if we examine it, read about it, talk about it with...

If you want to meet local poly folks, try googling [your city or closest city] and polyamory. You may find a local poly group, irl or on FB, etc. If you want to chat with poly folks from other countries, feel free to dive into our threads here, or start one of your own. Most of us are from the...

I find it curious that you'd be asking this question. Adults have sex drives. That is what allows our species to continue. Adult mammals, birds, reptiles, fish, bugs, we all have sex drives. There's this thing about life on earth. It is caused by sexual reproduction. So, of course, when...

Hello, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team

Hello, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team

What sticks out to me is it seems like you and Daisy live in the UK. She's a "Brit," you're from the US. Daisy "spends all her time online with Americans," including this "POS," Fern. All of this nastiness is happening online? What? On a Discord? Daisy doesn't have to spend all her time...

Rather than "see a doctor briefly," get thyself to a therapist. Call a suicide hotline, if you feel like you're going to die. Even if you don't mean you have suicidal ideation, you might self-harm... (My daughter struggled mightily with borderline personality disorder, so I am very familiar with...

Ah, thanks. The old confusion between "now" and "know." Yeah, we say "grow a pair" in the States, too.

I don't know what you meant by "needed know is grabbing my balls." Is that a saying in a language other than English? Any updates?

Where do you "go out" seeking this perfect couple? It is hard enough to find one person to really click with, much less a ready-made couple, both members of which are interested in you and attracted to you, and whom you find equally attractive. It is far easier to date people as individuals...

I moved your post to its own new thread.

I'm with Kevin. If your female friend is poly, what exactly does she feel she is she losing by her husband dating you? Are they just brand new to actually practicing polyamory? Is her husband doing a bad job as a hinge? Does she want to date others but not have him date others? Can you please...

You asked for "gentle" support. This is me being gentle. I am on your side.

Demisexual? Meaning: experiencing sexual feelings and attraction only after developing a close emotional relationship, and not on the basis of first impressions, physical characteristics, etc.? How does this play out in your relationship? Are you assuming he feels he has a "close personal...

Someone that was here for an hour last Tuesday. lol

How recently? How many 5-week "cycles" have you had? Are there any identifiable aspects of your dynamic that reoccur on a regular basis? That could be her reaction to the way you say things, rather than what you're saying. Or there could be other reasons. I personally think it's unfair to...