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Well, it's shame that Mary left you after only having opened your relationship a short time ago, and only having dated John for two months! That's pretty ridiculous. She is infatuated and not thinking with her brain. She's carried away with lust. I doubt this will end well for her and John. No...

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Yes, this is a common pattern. Please read those articles I linked to learn about this common mistake. I'm fine discussing it; it's not painful. But this is such a common topic. If you do searches for "unicorn" and "triad" and find the dozens of threads on this topic, I won't need to retype...

For me, it was this. The friend we tried it with said she was into women, but she lied, just to get to be with my (ex) husband. And even though he said the point of the threesome was for me to "explore my gay side," after we realized the woman wasn't into me as more than a friend, he still fell...

We are an anonymous board. Most people come here looking to crowd source info, to get a range of opinions. It's more practical than looking to find one mentor that will commit to helping you privately. You won't get outed, if that's what you're worried about.

lol Yeah, my unicorn hunting days began and ended in 1999. It was terrible and traumatic. I took a break from trying to practice polyamory until I did a lot more research and was in a time of life where I had more time to devote to multiple partners.

Here is a very long thread on the topic. https://polyamory.com/threads/why-and-how-did-you-get-into-poly.42432/page-31#post-522452 Please note that we have a search function you can use for topics that have been discussed often here. This forum has been around since 2009. :)

I completely agree with everything Tinwen said. I want to add my empathy, since one of my partner's (Pixi) mother just passed away too, after a four year struggle with dementia. She was 76. I imagine your mom was younger. My heart goes out to you. Cancer sucks! (I am a survivor, but cancer took...

Correct. :) A "threesome" refers to a single occurrence of group sex among three individuals. This is not polyamory, since it can be based in sexual desire only. Generally a couple finds a single person who is interested in having sex with two other people at once. This may or may not be...

Lots of people, especially committed couples, think that to enter polyamory, where the female of the couple is bisexual, the first thing to do is to find a "woman to share." There is a lot wrong with this idea, and generally you will be thought of as unicorn hunters. Years ago, my ex-husband and...

I'm sure there is no one correct way to approach something like this. This is how I would think about it. Imagine Carrie was going to go to on a pleasure trip to Canada one Easter weekend with her own parents, or a sister, or a platonic friend. The holiday now being just a couple weeks away, you...

It's always great to hear back from a member and get an interesting update. What I am hearing is that other than with Jess, you are allowed love, deep emotional connection, without sex (Katie), and sex without love (the swingers you and Jess met). How long will it be possible to keep these...

All right. Good to read more about the timeline of developments. Would you like to continue the discussion here, or back at "Sanity Check"?

More background to lostinlove's relationships here: https://polyamory.com/threads/from-0-100-in-3-weeks.159613/

I agree a good friend should be able to tell their friend they stink or are otherwise appearing unhygienic. lol

Okay, I am assuming this person is a young man to have that kind of issue with body odor. haha Lots of younger guys don't seem to understand that if they want to be a good partner, and get laid on a regular basis, they need to shower daily and use the right kind of deodorant! Recently my own bf...

That's all totally understandable. Be completely clear with stating your needs. You can be kind and clear at the same time.

I don't know what you think the responsibilities of a relationship are, but for me personally, partners are meant to care for you when you are pregnant. Family and friends are too. Even if you have to scale way back to completely platonic with both partners, is there really a need not to see...

My advice might be kind of like closing the barn door after the horse is already out. It seems like agreeing to opening your marriage because of bed death was the wrong decision, at least from your pov. Before wife started dating, at least you were getting a little sex. Now that she's having...

I dunno, MMM. It seems to me the message is loud and clear that she is not interested in sex with a long-term partner. Point blank period. She is telling and showing you this over and over in many different ways. Having hot(ter) sex with new people is common. Many people are like this. However...