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Thank you for your input. I'm seeing poly specialist therapists and enjoying the exploration of this new (but old) part of my being.

We all respect each other's needs. This goes beyond the bedroom. If you're just getting into being poly just for the sex you're not doing it right (in my opinion). Keep  everybody in the loop. This doesn't mean sharing things are meant to be secrets. It's more like... I can't describe it well...

Probably. But I don't know how not to think about something that feels so important. I want to just live life, but I'm lacking confidence to do it right now. I feel vulnerable. lol "no doom happened," I love how you phrased that. It will take time before I'm confident that being tense is...

Thanks for the sweet words. I'm trying to work on it as often as I can. My lover was overnight with me the last couple of nights. I spent several hours tense and nervous (like he might suddenly reject me now that I'm poly and know it), but we fell back into our roles eventually. We watched TV...

I don't expect to be instantly ready, but I do have it as a long-term goal. I have a lot of learning to do before I'm strong enough. Right now words like "polyamorous" sting. When they stop hurting me I can move on.

A lot of sexuality was kept from me for a long time. When caught having early masturbation attempts (when I was young -- early grade school, before I knew what masturbation was) were met with serious faces and shaking of heads. I didn't understand why they were displeased, but I knew that it had...

My therapist prompted me with a question at our last session: what are your 5 favorite things about being polyamorous? I'd love to hear about your favorite things!

Let me start by saying I'm doing the best I can to describe things. If my language is inaccurate kindly help me understand better. I've been aware of my poly-ness for about a month and I still have a kind of "tweak" (for lack of a better word) in my body when I talk about it. I still feel...

I learned the lesson about reddit really quick. I still bear a scar from it.

First of all, thank you for your kind answer. You have no idea how nervous I was to post this after my reddit experiences. Secondly, you make sense. I haven't heard it put that way, but you make a good argument. It seems like a strong pro-Pride argument. How do you celebrate?

I am new to knowing I'm poly (though I've been practicing it for almost 20 years) and have been getting a lot of conflicting information about whether or not I'm included in the LGBTQ community. The general consensus on reddit seems to be that we aren't part of the LGBTQ community (and they...

He's going to get me a box of crackers for Christmas, isn't he? 😐😐😐😑😐😐😐

What do poly people eat? My (sarcastic) answer was unicorn eggs. 🦄🪺 (I know, not as good as my dad's). But, seriously, what prompted somebody to ask this question? We're humans. We eat what humans eat.

I once saw somebody post a question to a poly message board that asked a very unique question. When I told my dad about it he made a joke that should be an official joke. Post: What do poly people eat? Dad: Crackers, because poly want a cracker. 🦜

I'm feeling like I'm the only person in my life who is excited by my recent discovery that I'm poly. They have all known for a long time (years); it's still very new to me (less than a month), which might be part of the problem. I'm eager to learn about this newfound part of myself. I just...

Thank you. I probably own part of the blame. I am still new, learning, and very emotional about things. My attempts to talk about being poly still feel awkward. I even struggle to say it out loud to myself. I'm trying to find my place in the crowd.

I am struggling to define why I feel this way. It's one of the things I plan to work on (I'm starting therapy Wednesday). I struggled to define the origin of my distress to my former therapist, too. I'm hoping the new one (who specializes in polyamory) will be able to help me identify the reason.

Kind of an introduction. I think this lays things out better than my original post: A lot of people seem to think I'm new to being poly. I'm not. I'm just new to *knowing* I'm poly. I have been poly for many, many years. Most (if not all) of my adult life. It's only in the last several months...

It's funny you describe it as bumping into walls, because that's how I've been describing discovering myself to my daughter. It's like being in a dark room with walls randomly placed throughout it and I keep running into them. I'm hoping the therapist will help me turn a few lights on.

Thank you. I'll add those questions to my collection of stuff for the appointment.