abnormal
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Kind of an introduction. I think this lays things out better than my original post:
A lot of people seem to think I'm new to being poly. I'm not. I'm just new to *knowing* I'm poly.
I have been poly for many, many years. Most (if not all) of my adult life. It's only in the last several months that I've been questioning and only about the last 3 weeks that it's dawned on me that what I've been doing all this time is considered polyamory.
Currently, I have a boyfriend, a friend I love very deeply, and a fwb. I've been with my bf and lover for almost 20 years. The fwb is a relatively new addition (a year or two).
They all know about each other and have known the whole time, even though we don't do group sexy things. They all know about my feelings. Everyone was surprised I didn't know because I've been doing this for so long, but I was totally in the dark.
When my daughter came out trans I started researching trans people so I could help her. In a subsection of one of the things I read was polyamory. The more I read, the more it sounded like what I've been doing. So I started lurking on poly message boards until I got up the courage to tell somebody. I chose to tell my daughter first, hoping she would understand. She did, and she has been a wonderful source of knowledge and support as I've begun to accept this.
Everyone else I've told said they already knew, and they were kind of surprised that I didn't know. I was surprised I didn't know, too (with the exception of my dad who had never heard of polyamory; he was accepting after a brief explanation, lol).
A lot of people seem to think I'm new to being poly. I'm not. I'm just new to *knowing* I'm poly.
I have been poly for many, many years. Most (if not all) of my adult life. It's only in the last several months that I've been questioning and only about the last 3 weeks that it's dawned on me that what I've been doing all this time is considered polyamory.
Currently, I have a boyfriend, a friend I love very deeply, and a fwb. I've been with my bf and lover for almost 20 years. The fwb is a relatively new addition (a year or two).
They all know about each other and have known the whole time, even though we don't do group sexy things. They all know about my feelings. Everyone was surprised I didn't know because I've been doing this for so long, but I was totally in the dark.
When my daughter came out trans I started researching trans people so I could help her. In a subsection of one of the things I read was polyamory. The more I read, the more it sounded like what I've been doing. So I started lurking on poly message boards until I got up the courage to tell somebody. I chose to tell my daughter first, hoping she would understand. She did, and she has been a wonderful source of knowledge and support as I've begun to accept this.
Everyone else I've told said they already knew, and they were kind of surprised that I didn't know. I was surprised I didn't know, too (with the exception of my dad who had never heard of polyamory; he was accepting after a brief explanation, lol).
