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Wouldn't you rather have a relationship with someone for whom you are their top priority? It isn't greedy to want a full-time r'ship, but that's not on offer here. It's ok, maybe even empowering, to move on from him because what he offers isn't enough for you.

He's not sorry he did it (or else he'd stop doing it.) He's sorry you found out. No offense, but your husband sounds like an entitled prick. Do you really want to stick around while he has a relationship with your co-worker? Do you want to dry his tears when she inevitably dumps him for someone...

Maybe you feel threatened because men and heterosexual couples have a societal privilege that lesbians and lesbian couples lack. In a hetero relationship, a woman enjoys more acceptance from the world at large, plus it's (often) easier to make babies if she's interested in that, and of course...

Dump him. He's dishonest & inconsiderate & will likely not make a good partner for anyone.

Sure, he wants a future with you. As just ONE of his partners, a piece of his idea of the perfect love life, not the whole. Now is a great time to ask yourself what you do and don't want in a serious relationship. Do you want a life partner who: Sometimes (or maybe more often than that) doesn't...

Ok, the bringing the vibrator to work & using all the batteries thing just did me in... WTF, who does that?? I don't think this is normal behavior. Maybe she's a sex addict.

5 weeks vacation?? I'm in the U.S., I wish we got 5 weeks vacation. Sorry, back to the topic at hand.....

I don't think you should talk to wife about this. She's already, I'm guessing, stretching her comfort zone. Her husband's lack of erection with his other partners is not, nor should it become in any way, her problem. Maybe you're actually more monogamous than you think, and you've had fun...

I highly recommend the book Come As You Are about women's sexuality. A woman who is overwhelmed with childcare & housework, not feeling romanced at home, and/or unfulfilled in her life will turn off to sex, often thinking the problem is her body, instead of the fact that sex has become another...

Your dating partner may have felt the same. But, being monogamous, she didn't want to have to sit at home while you go off and feel this way all over again bout the next woman. She would prefer a partner willing to sustain focus on one r'ship. Just think, now you get the fun of dating & catching...

Yeah, I don't think a nesting partner saying "no" to sharing her new sex toys with a metamour counts as "overly controlling." Buy your own sex toys.

I have seen couples who keep it sexy over several decades, but what it takes is a lot of attention between two established partners to constantly re-up the r'ship. Like, instead of taking the majority of that energy & showering it on a new partner, you have to keep re-investing that energy...

Hey, listen. It will be hard, but you CAN walk away, find a woman who just wants one man (you.) Plenty out there. Honestly, poly feels awful to a monogamous person. It is very, very hard to get your needs met by a poly person who is toggling between partners. To monogamous folk, poly can feel...

I haven't met your wife, but I can tell you this with utter conviction..... She's not *that* great. She's not worth your self-esteem, all this longing, pain & misery. There is absolutely no need for you to pretend to want to sleep with other people, or to have to deal with your wife sleeping...

Don't you want to be with someone who is passionate about you?

Of course it sucks. You've let yourself get talked into doing something you don't want to do because you're scared of ending your marriage. I've been on both sides of this. I've been the one hoisting poly upon a reluctant partner, as well as the one reluctantly agreeing to poly. None of it works...

Dump him. Seriously. Imagine: No more doing things you don't want to be doing. No more having sex with people you don't want. No more being lied to. And no being told YOU cannot have what HE has. He's been oscillating between half-truths, lies of omission, and outright lies. Pick up your...

If you have no desire to be poly, you find no pleasure in poly, you don't find it at all satisfying...WHY are you doing poly?? What do you get out of this? The problem isn't *just* your bf's double-standard, it's that you Don't. Enjoy. Poly. Not only do you get ick from the idea of him with...

Why did you agree to an ENM relationship with your longterm partner after moving out of your shared home? Were you hoping to avoid the pain of a breakup? Is he hoping to avoid any "drama," but he's not really interested in your r'ship anymore? Or did you both fully, joyfully embrace becoming...

In my experience, many lesbian women don't want a man anywhere in the picture. If you do start dating a lesbian, your boyfriend will NOT be welcome to participate, watch, see pics, or even hear gory details about it later (assuming you're respectful of your new lady friend.) If he's not to be...