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My man usually showers before he sees his gf, but not when he returns. There have definitely been times when I have tasted her on him. It doesn't really bother me, but I also like to hear about all of the details that went along with the acquiring the smells and tastes. Honestlt though, I...

Sorry for the late reply but we were on vacation last week. I am sorry you are struggling. I can tell you it does get easier and sometimes even enjoyable to be a part of the poly lifestyle. I am very giving too, so enabling my man to be fully and completely happy pursuing the things he wants...

This is my question. Seems like it should be fairly simple, but I'm struggling to make a decision..... My in-laws are in town this week. We have a favorite restaurant and there is a plan to go there for lunch tomorrow. My hubby has decided he would like his gf to meet his parents and has...

Here is a text I got from my man who is traveling this weekend: "LovelyLady, you're something I could've never imagined! I love you more than you'll ever know! I respect you in so many ways you cannot fathom. And I appreciate everything you do for me." Funny how a few words can make the happy...

Just an update and a thank you! The situation has improved, it's not yet ideal but I know that takes time. I have taken the advice of many and have stepped back from being so involved in his relationship with gf. I ask the basic questions I need to be comfortable. If other information is...

I do back off when the three of us are together. Since I am the primary, I try to give her the opportunity to sit next to him on the couch, in the car or at a restaurant. I do not mind if they hold hands or share a quick kiss, as long as my daughter is not exposed to it. I've recently been...

;) Part of the problem is that he would like to just let things happen as they may and I do not operate well like that. I need to know the who/what/when/where for pretty much any scenario, not just his time with GF. For example, this evening he told me he would be going out to see her and...

Yes definitely last minute. After me telling him tonight that I wouldn't be disappointed if she didn't come over and later him telling me he'd be home early and we could cuddle, he shows up at 1 am with her in tow. I waited up for him. I was so mad I was shaking and this time I didn't hold...

Actually both. However, I thought it might be a bit lighter/funner topic to discuss. I thought it might be fun to come up with a new pet name for him but it's proving harder than I thought to find something new that rolls off the tongue. I am not, however, asking him to stop calling either of...

Heartache sucks! I'm sorry that you're going through that. I hope you navigate through the pain to find yourself in a more open space ready to receive love again. Unfortunately, it takes time. Good luck!

sparklepop, your examples were really awesome and are totally something I could hear myself saying. I'm definitely going to put them to use. The part-time partner boundary will probably be my first attempt as it best describes my overall concern. This hit home, she really isn't the problem...

This definitely rings true. I would prefer if he were mono, but he's not and I don't want to change him. Since moving here a little over a year ago, I don't really have anything outside of my family and my career to occupy my time. I definitely need to find activities, friends, etc. I am...

Thanks so much for your awesome assessment GalaGirl. I really appreciate your input. It's not the disappointment that I can't deal with. I don't want to be needy. I want to be the super supportive, understanding and awesome partner that totally gets him. I hope to get there some day...

Thanks London! It is consensual and for sexual gratification. I am a bit of a voyeur and love to hear and see others having sex. My man is all too happy to share the details. The GF is moving into a new place and I fully expect that the overnights will be moving to her place. Although...

Wish I was happy. Wish I could find compersion. Wish I wasn't struggling. As soon as I have an UP day, two more DOWN days follow. I should probably start off this post by saying I'm currently sleep deprived. Forgive me if something doesn't make sense. I've gotten such great advice from the...

Hi Shannon. My name is Karin, nice to meet you. I live in Coral Springs and work in Plantation. Have you tried out any of the poly groups yet?

Just wondering how everyone feels about pet names. Do you have different pet names for each partner? Would you feel slighted if your love used the same pet name for all partners? What if your metamour started calling your love by the same pet name you have for him, would you find a new name?

Hi! I can totally relate. We are not out to anyone, so I really don't have anyone to talk to outside of the relationship, other than to share my thoughts on this board. Plus we moved to South Florida a little over a year ago from Orlando and I haven't really made any local friends. I have...

There are some mono women who can accept, be happy and thrive in a relationship with a poly man. From my perspective, I would not want you to make the decision for me. Be honest with her that you will NEVER be mono and won't be able to give her that. Let her decide if she can accept the...

That is a great point and I do trust my husband. I am a person who very much likes to plan/control outcomes so relying on trust doesn't come easy to me. Action to ensure results is more my style. Hence why I am in this conundrum. The metamour and I have arranged to get together next week...