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Actually, I believe it is my duty to be available to my husband's other wives, just in the way it is my duty to be available to my husband. Even though I feel low energy these days, I refuse to say no. It's part of my beliefs that once in a relationship you share your body with your partners...

My relationship with Swift has some history. When Swift’s parents died years ago, a friend of mine adopted her. She was close to my little sister when they were teens, and still maintains a friendship with her. So to me, she’s kind of the “kid” even though she’s a married adult with children...

Over the weekend we had the first major squabble in our family since I moved in. Swift and Corsac started arguing in the kitchen, and Renarde got drawn into the spat. After I intervened and tried to calm them down, I found out that apparently I'm the apple of discord. Swift can get a bit...

The changing nature of race and social standing continues to amaze me. My own history with it is mixed. I'm mostly Eastern European...I ended up with pale skin, blonde hair, etc... But contrary to the idea of privilege, my life up til age 17 was appalling. I was born in a shack with a dirt...

Well if sandbag walls, barbed wire, and organic gardening is your style, there's an increasing number of groups like the one I lived with. From what I've seen, it is more common in the Midwest US than elsewhere, except for in Eastern Europe where it is a growing phenomenon. There are both...

The all female energy thing has both benefits and drawbacks. When I lived in that household, I was partnered with the girl who was the leader of the group. It was much like living in a military camp....there was even a "political officer" who was responsible for continuing education. The...

PurpleSun- The issue of lesbian/bisexual etc... and interactions with men is definitely a sticky issue. Here's how my family has handled it: I am "mostly" a lesbian. My husband is the one and only man I have felt any attraction toward, and it took many years for us to actually settle down...

The Bible says... Biblically speaking, for a woman to be having sex or be in a relationship with more than one man, it is a no-go. Here's what is allowed, as I understand it... A man can have one wife. A man can have multiple wives. If a man has multiple wives, then he is not to be a ranking...

I tend to think that in a heterosexual relationship, setting up an "open" agreement leads to exactly the four situations you have described. It is a lot easier for women to find casual sex than it is for most men. For those concerned about an equitable relationship, it becomes anything but...

Well...we basically joined two triads together. Before I married Ares, he had two wives and I had two girlfriends. Then things got sticky. Renarde and Reina fell in love suddenly, and my old relationship with Ares reignited. For right now, my girlfriends aren't involved with my husband, and...

I’m not sure if I “want” them to fall in love exactly, but I think it would be a good outcome for them. They are close, and it would seem to be a natural progression. I don’t know of another person who would understand Artemis as well as my husband seems to. He’s the one she turns to for...

My husband (Ares) and our housemate (Artemis) are really good friends, but that's where the relationship stops. They talk a lot, they tend to be late night drinking buddies at the kitchen table, and they work together. He brought her into the home when her husband died a couple of years ago...

I think that dating and relationships in general are easier for women than men. There's a few things that I've noticed over the years. 1. Women seem to be a bit more fluid/flexible when it comes to sexuality. Most guys I know don't want to seem gay, but women seem to have less of an...

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The human body is an amazing thing. I was told years ago that I was sterile, and I thought that in our relationship many years ago my husband and I had proved it by a lengthy period of totally unprotected sex. Fast forward a decade and I got pregnant almost as soon as we got married. Sometime...

I think the sticking point in your situation is the fact that you live in different cities. At least for me, what makes a relationship work is constant contact. Years ago I was in a relationship with a girl who traveled a lot for work. I just couldn't keep up with the relationship. For some...

Glad I could help. Sometimes it can feel like being mostly oriented toward the same sex PLUS being in a poly family is a combination that very few can identify with. Just hang in there. 30 seems to be a rough transition. Years ago I was in a relationship with a girl who was turning 30 and it...

I totally agree with this. I'd forgotten about those fake std test forms too....bleh. I think the testing thing is one weakness of having a more open relationship. If you can be sure that you're dealing with a limited set of people, then once you're all tested you are good. With a more...

There's a couple of sides to this, I think. At 34 (I'm also early 30's) it seems like the rest of your life is both close and far away. You've got time, but you don't want to waste it. There's also that biological clock ticking. While you may not want kids and have little interest in men...

Interesting thread. I’ve taken the test before and gotten mixed results between INTP and ISTP. My husband is very strongly an ENTJ “Commander” type, which seems to fit him pretty well. I’m introverted in that I like a quiet environment and disorder tends to upset me, but I also don’t want a...