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Absolutely, you are correct that people must have the right, and ability to vocalize their discordance with the current agreement. Though that is only valid when the discussion is in place and is of mutual understanding and consent. This is reliant on our ability to change as well.

I deserve to be happy. I deserve love that is unconditional. I deserve to feel valued, important, and wanted. With those out of the way, tomorrow I am calling my insurance company to lookup mental health benefits and to do a provider search. I also have an entrance exam for college in the...

Starting this thread as journal of my mental health. I may ask for advice I may not. Though the intention is to keep active participation on my growth as a human being how well I can quell and assimilate my turmoils. If some one does read this and has question about me I will answer within my...

Correct at the end of the day our words are binding.

Discussing is fine and important. But if two people agree to reformat their relationship, even if only for a week, then both must have consent before reformatting again for the sake of mental and sexual health. That being said I want to leave you with this. Polyamory doesn't have to be a window...

Yeah my wife and I have never had an OPP and while I suffer with insecurities, these insecurities stem decades of abuse before I met my wife. I know that I don't mind her being with someone no matter who. And I know she feels the same for me. Partly bc I identify as Omni/Demi and my wife is Bi...

Yeah the "need to know" is toxic. My wife and I have been poly for a while and we suffered with treating it like a window that we both open and close when we feel hurt. I recently have been struggling with "re-opening" due to miscommunications. I'm trying to alter my view of it as room that you...

You're correct in regards to what said while on the walk, we addressed it and have a plan of action to better communicate, make time for each other, and for me to find the counseling I need to assimilate my past traumas better within me.

Yeah, I've had a pretty rough go at it before meeting my wife. And I normally don't get this bad. I know that she would never hurt me and she opted to cancel her date so we can work through this episode, I refused to because I think it would just add to the problem more by making me feel like an...

Nobody HAS to be wrong, in most situations. In this one I had concerns that at the time we're not being addressed. They have been addressed since posting this and we have a plan of action for both of us in place.

Thanks, she and I talked about it for a while last night and came to realize that she and I dont make time for each other and that needs to be worked on. We also asked the question of whether I'm projecting my trauma onto this situation.

I was expecting a slower pace that I move at and not the pacing she has.

I agree with you that I don't want to invade privacy and when we first started out we "didn't want to get a play-by-play" i.e. no gratuitous, or disrespectful details. Though A level of transparency where we establish the possibility of something will definitely help. Thanks for the advice.

Thank you. I had considered that she is telling the truth and I do trust her deep down. And thank you for asking about progress on my rape. I've had a few therapy sessions over the years, I am a lot better than I was. I used to find bottled comfort and while I can't say I've been sober for the...

Edit: I've thought more on the situation and find that I was, in my opinion at least, expecting too much. Communication is paramount with everyone in you're life. I'll leave the post up in case someone has a similar situation. TRIGGER WARNING, I WILL LIGHTLY REFERENCE MY OWN SEXUAL ASSAULT...