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Here's my take. I know some folks feel differently, but— I think the whole, "I AM polyamorous, I'm wired to be poly, my brain is different from your brain in a way that makes me a Thing Called POLY" (and replace "poly" with "mono", likewise)... is a super unhelpful framing device for navigating...

This is cute, and I love it. I feel the same way about the person I currently see once a week. 🥰 (This was a good thread to unearth, @Zero0nb!)

The complex cocktail for dessert sounds delicious! 🥂 And going on dates prepared to have a good time solo is my favourite dating strategy.

As though that didn't also describe monogamy... 😏

I came across this expression a few years ago, and, oh boy, does it ever help. 😅

What you did. It is there. And I see it. 😆

Hey. I'm a couple decades younger, sounds like (I went to school in the '90s), but I relate to this so hard. Only realized my own probable AuDHD this past year. A lot fell into place. I see you, stranger. ❤️

After reading this and your past threads, WestCoastRedHead, all I can say is this relationship sounds like so much work. Pisces with his "my partners have to get along with each other", and his other partner with her "I can't even be in the same room as my meta because reasons". I don't know, I...

It does seem that way. Like carrying an internalized idea from childhood, "If my caregivers abandon me, I'll be destroyed," into our relationships as autonomous adults...

I think you're right. And from my experience, the kinky, genderqueer, and software developer circles share that overlap, too. At least when brains are unconventional, they're often unconventional in similar ways... it's sort of comforting. 😆

Happy New Year, Internet forum! I haven't had much to write in this thread, since I haven't had much polyamory-related stuff going on. My thing with Maple continues to be great, and for now it's plenty. I have a feeling I'll want to start dating again in the spring... and it's nice to feel like...

This is what draws me to polyamory, too. I don't feel a powerful drive to add more relationships to my life... but I don't want to have to say no to them by default, either. It sounds like you probably don't want to be in a non-monogamous relationship, when it comes right down to it.

Yes. You tell your partner they need to keep having a relationship with you. You tell your partner they need to keep having a relationship with you. Yes. By your partner making sure they continue to have a relationship with you. I'm sorry your partner is treating you so poorly.

"Woman of Ill Repute" is my favourite.

I agree very much; I think my strong negative reaction to the OP is because they seem to disregard this idea or assume it isn't true. Regarding what that shitty person said to you, Magdlyn: Yeah, I think it's exactly the opposite: Everyone in a relationship with someone is (or should be)...

I suppose a question is, what is your desired outcome from counselling? Biff comes around to the idea he should not date a 20-something? You come around to the idea that it's fine if Biff dates a 20-something? You decide to amicably separate? Something else? What I read in this thread (and I...

Would Oscar really have YELLED it, though? 😜 OP hasn't come back yet, but their post is an awesome piece of bait; just a bunch of leading questions that fans of polyamory are going to react to strongly. I sense a false premise: that there is a state called "special" that can only be...

Alas! No you can’t.

If your partner really wants to date someone half their age, and you really don’t want to have a partner who dates people half their age, then the truth is you and Biff are probably incompatible.