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I'm maybe going to this coming weekend's Not A Sex Party, which has been a topic of anxiety for me. Cons, I can't drink, I'm probably going to be in a crowded house with a bunch of people who are drinking, I have anxiety, crowds make me anxious, I won't have any designated My People there who...

I'm been doing a lot of shitty-place thinking on my relationship with Raven. I've been agonizing about it. I think there's a lot of pressure, both internal and external, to have a "real" relationship, where I see someone on a regular basis and have a strong emotional and/or sexual connection...

On a technical level, your survey's levels of education lack an important distinction: professional degree (which would include JDs and MD/DOs who are not MD/PhDs).

The great thing about burst ovarian cysts are not only do they fill 2-3 days with what I imagine being stabbed by a hot, slowly twisting knife would feel like, they also fuck majorly with my emotional stability. Hooray.

Accidentally got up half an hour earlier today than I wanted to because I haven't yet figured out the difference between 'washing hair and shaving before work' days and 'not washing hair and shaving before work' days. It's about a 30 minute difference, but for some reason instead of realizing...

I had therapy last night. We missed a couple weeks between my out of town wedding and my therapist having to attend a funeral. But those weeks were not crisis weeks for me, so I've been okay. We mostly talked about my week of nightmares and how she thinks my not sleeping was anxiety instead of...

My brother, who abruptly quit his job and has been utterly out of contact in Europe since December, finally got in touch with my mom and some of his and Guitarist's mutual friends to let them know he's alive. Asshole. We've all been worried to death, but since he's an adult, all the embassy...

Yesterday was my last day at the old job. Me and my secretary both teared up a little. It's not like I'll never see her, since I'm working in the same building, but it's a little different from sharing an office with someone. Monday, I start my new job. I keep having these crazy dreams...

Brief update: I'm so very, very busy with changing jobs, but I had a date with Raven last night and she's so delightfully cuddly.

I saw this during my usual lunch-time reading. Not EXACTLY poly (at least as far as is reported) but interesting because of the precedent. http://abovethelaw.com/2017/03/court-grants-custody-to-three-parents-we-may-not-need-duncles-much-longer/

Pre-social-gathering anxiety aside, the wedding was great and I had a lot of fun. It was nice to see my friends! Reconnecting reminds me that, no, I am not the awkward third wheel I always think that I am. Thanks for that, supremely awkward childhood. The traveling day yesterday was brutal...

I'm waiting on the start of my friend's wedding and 100% in my feelings right now. I have a lot of feelings of inadequacy around a lot of my college friends. I went to a swank private college on a hefty academic scholarship, but I grew up in a trailer park. I thought I was good friends with my...

So don't settle now. People get cold feet about marriage without throwing poly in the mix. You don't have to use your new, shiny relationship as an excuse to not marry Fiancee. Jumping out of one relationship ONLY BECAUSE a better one has come along is a very serial-monogamist mindset, and you...

Tell him you're not comfortable doing that. You've outlined perfectly good reasons. I think your discomfort is rational. He's in a tough place and grabbed onto what seems to be an easy solution. But I wouldn't be comfortable cruising for any of my partners either. And I definitely wouldn't be...

What stands out to me is "only known Other for a brief amount of time." You are likely still deep in NRE. Your hormones are telling you how perfect the new relationship is for you, which is what your brain is designed to do right now. But you and Other aren't compatible on one major axis. It...

I had nearly finished an epic-length post yesterday when my house lost power (again). We had some brown-outs in the morning, so I guess I shouldn't have been surprised, but it was HOURS later. Anyway, I ended up going on a movie date with Guitarist and then to my mom's for dinner. My mom is on...

I'm definitely cruising along in a hypomanic place right now. I'm up about getting the new job. Which is making an an interesting juxtaposition with how I've almost hit my introvert breaking point of doing too much. Still, it makes sleeping properly hard. My brain just doesn't want to shut up...

The "born this way" stuff has its basis in legal arguments about Constitutional protections and immutable characteristics. If you're born a certain way, it's easier to argue that you are entitled to protection as a minority (I'm way oversimplifying here). I'm not saying that it's right, just...

OMG. Your blog reminds me why I bought my house move-in ready AND is inspiring me to maybe update my old lady bathroom.

Things are now crazy busy over here as I'm trying to adjust to a new job. Also we're having Raven and Ravenhub out for board games next Saturday. We did a base-touching poly conversation on our last date night, and it sounds like we're both enjoying our relationship, though I asked for more in...