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Hope you have a fun date, PolyRed. I'm also amazed at how long NRE can last. It's a beautiful feeling.

I very much enjoy your blog here, Reverie. You're a great writer and a lot of what you write has helped me process and understand my own feelings.

Feeling really blissed out and in love with Julian at the moment. We both had other things going on last weekend and weren't able to be together between Thursday evening and last evening. When he got home from work, I went to his place and we played with the dogs for awhile, then snuggled on the...

If the NSA is wasting their time wondering about my love-life, that explains a lot about the state of this country.

Mine says "it's complicated," but the privacy is set to "only me," so I may as well not have it there at all. I would have it as a public status if it weren't for some of Julian's coworkers who are suspicious that he's cheating on Maya with me. They're conservative and it could be bad for him if...

I've always been interested in the idea of families of choice & communal living. I also see most things in shades of gray - gender, sexual orientation, age, intelligence, ability, etc. That said, although I have never had a problem with the idea of poly relationships, I didn't expect to pursue...

I'm sorry, northhome. It's really hard to love someone and not be able to help. And it sounds like perhaps she hid her mental state from you for awhile, which makes an intimate, loving relationship feel like it's built on unstable ground. I believe that most people I've dated (and the majority...

I was thinking about jealousy / envy (whichever you want to call it - I think it's the latter in this particular case) and when I feel it. It has only arisen for me a few times, and they're related: 1. When Julian gets the mail and it's addressed to Julian and Maya Tillman. Maya kept her...

Hi PolyRed, Welcome! I read your post in the "poly and ethnicity" thread and found some affinity with you, so I will be interested to see where life takes you. I'm pretty new, too, both to this board and to poly.

"Making love" always made my skin crawl, my whole life, as did "lover." And then something changed for me and I started liking them about six months ago. I can't figure out why. Maybe it comes with middle age, haha.

That list of slang terms is hilarious. One that always made me laugh was from the sitcom Laverne & Shirley -- not sure how the writers really spelled it, but it sounds like "vo-dee-oh-doe-doe." Shirley Feeney was such an adorable little prude.

That was a great post, schizofish - very clear, and very interesting, both in terms of semantics and psychology. A lot to think about.

How much advance notice do you have to give your spouse about whether you're going to dinner? I ask because my gut reaction would also be, "No way in hell," but I'd probably come around to it in time. Usually, the reality of the person is much easier to accept than the fantasy you have in your...

"Sleeping together" doesn't bother me, although I can understand why it would be irksome. The one that bugs me is "sexy-time." Ugh, it grates on my nerves so badly. It's so juvenile. (Strangely, "play" doesn't sound juvenile to me, although it's pretty ambiguous.) Plus it reminds me of Borat...

The holidays were mostly pretty good, except the part when I got the flu. I was able to be with Julian on Christmas Eve after my family party ended (and overnight), Christmas Day after another family party ended (and overnight), all day on the 26th, and for about an hour on the 27th. Then I got...

Julian and I hung out with friends for two hours last night, and then slept back at my place. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and regret that I spent any of my time with him being asleep. Our time is so limited and I hate to "waste" any of it, even though I know intellectually...

I am using this space to work things out, but comments and advice are always appreciated. Thanks for reading. After a summer of increasingly close friendship, Julian and I became romantically involved. We fell for each other very hard. We've been together for a few months and things between us...

I'd have those concerns, too, GlitterCat. Sure, there are exceptional teenagers who have fabulous emotional maturity, just like there are older folks who still behave like toddlers when it comes to self-control and self-awareness. But the fact that discretion is so important here and there seems...

Hi ravenelf, I don't think this is an issue that is particular to being poly; anyone who has/had mental health (or physical health, for that matter) obstacles will need to decide if/when to tell a partner. I don't think it would be dishonest of you to keep your past mental health to yourself as...

I check your blogspot blog every day - I hope you update soon! I really like what you've written so far.