Search results

Hi Imogen, How happy do you feel with the relationship between you and him, the relationship between you and her, and the triple relationship with all 3 of you? Are there any specific issues you would wish to talk about? Otherwise, you can search for triads on the forum. There's plenty of...

Here's an excellent intro post by the male hinge in an FMF situation. I think the opening post highlights a lot of issues previously discussed in this thread. It certainly gave me a lot to think about.

Hey Inaniel, Welcome to the forums. I'm relatively new myself and don't have any specific advice for you. It's been mentioned before that FMF V-shaped polyamory can be difficult. To be honest, everything you're describing sounds like a less disastrous version of things that people have been...

I feel your hurt. I think it's hard when we love someone but are forced to stand by and watch them destroy themselves. Naturally, we want what's best for those we love and our instinct is to step in. I think we do this because we grew up learning (from our parents) that love means telling your...

Hi, I have no real advice for your sticky situation, but some of the replies in this thread may resonate with you.

Your writings have given me a lot to think about, HyperSkeptic. I know you didn't do it for me, but thank you. In contrast to all the glowing advice we see on this forums for polyamory, your tale speaks to caution. It has had a deep influence on me. Thank you for sharing, Shaya.

Hi Mler, I'm glad for you and your boyfriend that you've found each other romantically again. I'm sorry if the forums have been less than useful for you. I think it's an unfortunate fact of the internet that different strangers will react to your story in different ways. I often find that we...

Hi Cartera, Mags has it right. Polyamory can be messy because there are no hard and fast rules, with everybody's polyamory taking different shapes and forms. We spend a lifetime learning how to do monogamy with all the various examples around us, and then we suddenly decide we don't want that...

Welcome to the forums. You'll fit right in. ;)

I see what you're saying now Vince. Thanks for the clarification. I think you're right.

Hey BathedinSalt, I think you're doing well. Bumps will be had but you're doing well. You're going slow. You're reading resources. You're considerate of others. The only thing I see in you that you may want to take a closer look at is your NRE and its effect on Dean. I know the NRE and the...

Hi, I may have the wrong hunch, but I feel an undercurrent of passive agrresiveness coming from her. If so, there are things that the two of you need to talk about that she may be reluctant to talk about. There's this concept of the 4 horsemen of the relationship that I found useful. It...

Hey Vince, I like your analogy of the nails in the fence. Things said in anger often do leave a scar though I would also hope that most scars fade with time. Depends on the depth of the scar I suppose. I'm not sure what you mean when you say the quiz seems to score how well a couple can sweep...

That was beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

Hi Karen, You and I seem to have very different world views about infidelity. I have found myself intensely curious about the way you view it and find myself agreeing with every individual sentence you write, despite disagreeing with the overall message. When you point out that throughout most...

That was beautiful, Schrodinger'sCat, Thank you.

Hi Britt, Welcome to the forums. For obvious reasons, bisexuality is proportionately more common in polyamory than in monogamy. I hope you find these forums to be useful. I'm sorry to hear about the emotional infidelity that you and your boyfriend went through. I'm glad to hear that you've...

Hi Tinwen, I get the sense that Idealist has been less than ideal as a hinge. Meta seems to feel her relationship is threatened by you and is reacting poorly. I see this coming out in two ways (probably more, but I'll discuss the two that stand out to me). Firstly, Meta demeaning your position...

Hi again Herman, I'm hearing you say that your wife is finding herself attracted to another man and confused about her feelings for you. Polyamory is a term she's come across and with which she feels she identifies with. I hear you say that you don't believe she quite fits polyamory based on...

Hi again, It's always great to hear an update. :) Feel free to start a section in the blogs part of the forum. I know I'll be following your story. I wish you and Peter the stability and contentment you both desire in each other. Kind thoughts, Shaya.