"Unicorn" new to poly

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Imogen0731

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Hi!
I am new to poly. Completely new. I happened to meet a couple on an on line dating site and just sort of..found myself in this new type of relationship. Initially the husband messaged me and I just didn't read his profile so I kept chatting with him and when I realized the situation, I was a bit like "omg" but kept talking with him, then chatted with the wife and it went well and here I am. I've been with both of them sexually but only once. Have been sexual with him many times. Have hung out with her a few times and both of them a few times.
I'd just like to chat with someone who has experience in this sort of relationship just to have someone who understands and I can kind of...just maybe relate to...chat about a few questions I have, concerns I have etc
 
My situation isn't like this, my only experience with poly is getting pregnant somewhat with my girlfriend's permission, but that's another story.

I'm here to chat, anyway!
 
Hi Imogen,

How happy do you feel with the relationship between you and him, the relationship between you and her, and the triple relationship with all 3 of you? Are there any specific issues you would wish to talk about?

Otherwise, you can search for triads on the forum. There's plenty of examples.

Best wishes,
Shaya
 
Hi Imogen

I'm not exactly in your situation, but close.

I am currently the "hinge" in a MFF poly V triad, in which my partners, J and B, USED TO be a couple/fwb style.

This is my first foray into Poly, and to be honest I was not seeking it. I still struggle, mainly with issues of time/scarcity and loyalty. AND moreover with issues of "identity". i.e. I did NOT see myself as a "poly person", or someone interested in non-monogamy, swinging or the like when we first began.

My partners are both so much "chill" than I am, even though they are no longer engaged in a physical relationship with each other. (Like you, I've been intimate with them BOTH once only, and we've decided not to continue with that.)

I am still coming to terms with this relationship myself, so not sure how much help I'd be... however I am always willing to chat, compare notes or offer my own insights.
 
Hi Imogen0731,

I'd be happy to chat with you, if you're interested you can post your questions and concerns. It sounds like things are a bit overwhelming for you at this time, though I could be reading that wrong.

I'm glad you could join us.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
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