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Yep,that is the same as Panther's. It's 1% of the population. He doesn't tend to be as concerned with people understanding him, but he is DEFINITELY an introvert in every sense of the word. Very much prefers one-on-one or maybe two-on-one get togethers, not group settings, and he NEEDS his down...

Thank you, Monkeystyle. I think my personality type has a lot to do with how I write AND how I perceive people in my life, even when I am struggling through the hurt. I am an ENFJ. If you haven't, check out the book "Please Understand Me II." It has a WEALTH of information about the different...

One day at a time, right? Found something on FB today that so well describes me. But I don't know how to copy-paste it in my phone. Anyway, I fell apart, sobbed uncontrollably. But I did not fall into the hopeless place of depression, just hurting and letting myself feel the pain. SweetPea...

I am moving out. I don't know where or how yet. Maca is going back to Kodiak in two months time. While he is gone, I will stay here with the kids. When he is here, I will be by to do school with SweetPea, and meet SourPea's bus after school. But I will not be staying here. He says he is not ok...

Enjoy the weekend Kevin!

Sending you hugs. Save the post. You can re read it when doubts sneak in.

Don't kick yourself over me. Just realize, I understand anxiety & other me tal health struggles. Not only do I have them, but I study them. My situation may CURRENTLY be messier, but we have many similar struggles. It IS meaningful that amidst your internal struggles you find time to reach...

I haven't been keeping up with your blog (or anything on here) but Isanted to say thank you I know I cant fix the struggle right now Just as you cant fix mine But the time you have taken for me, the kindnesses you have shown and the safe listening ear you have made available to me keep me...

Very well put. It's nice in a "still disturbing" way to know I'm not the only one who has struggled/is struggling with these types of things. One more day survived. On my way to take the boy to the range.

Oh! You see, I think that is one of the things that makes things hard for us (him and me). I am a digger too. I explained it to him as being driven. I am driven to solve a problem. Like a Rubix cube, I won't remove the stickers. I will keep going until I figure it out, for hours, days, months...

I think this is exactly right, IP. We both know we are at an impasse in terms of incompatibility, which is why we are again apart. But we want to find some level of middle ground where we can keep the bond we enjoy with one another AND meet the needs we each have (which are completely opposite)...

As for the brilliant little stalker bitch: all I can say is that my guard is up.

I could consider maintaining my "special" items in a room of my own; I already do generally. BUT, in combination with the rest, I am guarded about the avoidance of facing who I am, which has been an ongoing theme for the entire 5 years we have been poly. He wants no contact with my other...

I have no idea who it is. They created the profile 11/14/14 and that pm is the only post they ever made, which was timestamped 10:10pm last night. Identified themselves as a female with a bday of 2/3/79. And yes, the tactic is violent communication, sneaky, chicken-shit, dysfunctional behavior...

Ironically, Kev, I did print it for the therapist (and my response). I also sent it via email to Maca. He's PISSED OFF. He doesn't think it's the 24-year old, even though there are several lines that are almost exact duplicates of things she wrote in the last email she sent me however many...

continued What the fuck are you SMOKING? BAILEY? Because seriously, he's never been told anyone he wanted to date was "not acceptable." NOT EVER. FURTHERMORE, I ended my relationship with GG BEFORE our 21st anniversary would have come around. That date was SEVEN MONTHS AGO. I asked to see...

My response to the previous post is this: If you can't speak to me honestly, forthrightly and authentically as yourself, then you aren't a real friend. To have a real relationship of any kind, it is necessary for both parties to be able to be their authentic selves, speak their minds freely and...

Sent to me in PM "AFriend" sent this to me via pm. No idea who they are. It doesn't matter much, does it?

I see it as making me pretend to be something I am not, not allowing me to be fully and authentically myself, which is precisely what I said to him. Which is why it digressed again.

"I want our home and our mutual items to be ours only. I don't want to share these things with others and I would like to not have things that relate to others in our... world... " I see this as a way to continue avoiding the truth of me having other relationships. He sees my reaction as being...