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Thanks for the update, sexyserb. I have followed your story all along and think you're an interesting person. I have learned from you and am glad you're here. Fallen Angelina, thanks for your comments, and I know you learned that MC is not motorcycle club ( LOL) but marriage counseling. I also...

Well its been a while. One year ago I went from party girl back to wife and from open to closed in my marriage. Its been an interesting year. And like clockwork the discussions and decisions have occurred I probably will for the point of brevity post more details in the blog I started for those...

I could be wrong, but to me that sounds like telling yourself stories. Like you don't really want to be doing this but are trying pt put a good face on it. Because you are scared she will dump you and do it anyway and you don't want to be alone. So you are thinking about compromising yourself...

A few weeks ago she came to me telling me she has fallen in love for a distant friend of ours, And I guess she got hit by a lightning bolt out of the clear blue sky and has fallen in love. more than likely there was a lot of communication going on that you know nothing about. If thats the case...

[QUOTE=vinsanity0;399964]One thing missing from this thread is the suggestion that the husband get some therapy on his own. It seems like he has some issues he may not be comfortable sorting out with his wife present. Vinsanity is EXACTLY right Gemma. You say you might see a sex therapist...

I agree. One of us will be giving up something, I don’t want him to feel forced into this poly lifestyle. I have a lot more to lose my family means everything. So as much as it pains me to lose my bf I will choose my husband. I feel like I need to see a sex therapist though and try and...

Birdcage, My guess is you will get some responses about ETHICAL NON MONOGAMY. There is nothing ethical about being a serial cheater. So you have to figure out what YOU want and can live with. Your odds of being happy are greatly reduced if you are not all in. Your reaction is like most men...

Gemma, Unfortunately you are still so caught up in maintaining your “poly” experience that you are still being extremely “selfish”, and those are your own words. Of course you are being encouraged to keep putting the knife in your husband here because your “boyfriend “ is the victims here not...

OK, NInja, lets start at the beginning. Most people in the real world are mono and lets keep the philosophical nonsense out of it. They move to non monogamy, of which poly is one form, for more reason than you can list here, and there is no one here that can give you the formula guaranteed to...

PS Greg does not date other females and has hinted several times he would like to be closer to us So this tall, handsome, well hung guy does NOT date any females. Don't you find that a little strange????, regardless of how close he wants to be with you. Before you take ny opinions here, you...

despite not really being interested in it for myself. You said it, not me. So one year ago you are in a bad marriage and then you start crushing on guy at work. You know he's poly but does rest of work. Just saying because work romances can be as Gala would say "messy" if organization frowns...

OK, now you know she is having sex with others, and now she is joining a site that is basically a front for prostitution. Or I supppose if she takes money from a guy she likes she will not have sex with him right. So you call it what you want. And for icing on the cake she blows you off like an...

So I’m theory you want to keep your wife in the dark and continue to try to get in the pants of your 23 year old online hottie. What’s complicated about the boyfriend because it sounds like she’s also cheating on him? Or does Mr. Complicated know about her meeting up with you. ? If not , aside...

Ok Starz, You have basically gotten the same advice from people who do not know each other from Adam. Your husband is a serial cheater and he is abusing you emotionally continuously and has been for years. You CANNOT control him but you can control yourself. One reason this behavior has...

Just another instance where a cake eater discoveries the term “poly” to continue their behavior and rationalize it. He has been cheating on your for years. The difference this time is when caught he won’t give her up. You do not need any poly friendly therapist. You are not selfish, your...

so we talked about it at least a few times a week for 6 years. So for six years you talked multiple times a week. When did your husband tell you that he really was interested in actually doing polyamory. Seems like in six years you might have had more to go on than your "perception" that he was...

If a woman doesn't want to have sex with more than one man, or with any men at all, that's entirely her thing, whether orientation or choice. But if a woman *does* want to have sex with more than one man, condemning her for it, considering her "damaged goods" or acting like it's a personal...

Looks like you played it totally above board . I’m not sure what could have been in your husbands mind to have him go along with what you were doing, almost encouraging and facilitating it , and then apparently being devastated and livid that you want to pursue the relationship . I mean it’s...

Great, positive news that he called her on an unknown number and that she did not seek him out. Whats not so great is that (1)she did not shut him down and tell him not to call any more. She actually had more calls (2)she just stated he is one of besties. Any therapist that tells you the way to...

No one said one word about anyone commanding anything. What your husband did say was that he did not want to participate in a relationship where you had a boyfriend. What he did say was that he could not accept you having continued contact with your boyfriend and you had to choose. Somehow you...