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Hmm I googled Novalco and it just comes up with essays on anger management. I don't seem to be angry. I have all this sadness that keeps coming up which doesn't really seem to link to anything much. It's happened before when I've given up alcohol and so I suppose I've self-medicated myself with...

I know very little about 2Rings from this forum but I do feel like I have come to know something of you and Kat Tails. I will always try and be impartial because I see that you both have needs and hurts. While I can understand that you would not want to inflame the situation with her and...

I'm about at the 3 month point too but I'm having a very different experience. Are you doing the steps? Do you have a sponsor? This week preparing to do step five is particularly bloody hard. I'm thinking I preferred life with some alcohol in it.

I am so sick of trying to lose weight, it's like the problem has been with me since I was 10 years old. It hasn't helped of course that my sister is a string bean and I was always the "shortish curvy" one. Oh for a society where average height and curves are fully appreciated. Giving up alcohol...

Hi LR, I've been following your journey lately, although I may have missed some strategic bits. Can I give you a bit of feedback as an observer? I'm wondering if Maca 'hating' GG is how his discomfort with your relationship is manifesting. In other words, your relationship isn't failing...

Hi MG Just wanted you to know that I am reading and enjoying your blog even though I haven't felt I have anything much to contribute. Keep up the good work:)

I'm glad you're back KT and your process will take you as long as it takes you. I think that you are in a different place to where you have been previously because your focus does seem to be primarily on you and not your relationship. I think this is not only healthy, it is imperative because...

Hey, just posting so that I am subscribed and get keep up when you come back. :)

ooh goody :-) thanks for sharing that. I'm really busy at the moment so am only responding to the threads I've subscribed to. How are you doing you gorgeous thing :-)

Oh KT I'm so sorry to hear you're where you are, but I think you maybe have hit rock bottom and are finally trying to focus where you need to which is on yourself. You are right though you have so much work to do and the very first place I think you need to start is with a bit of self...

Thanks for the link, Mono and LR. I hope that getting this down, and hopefully normalized hormones will bring you some peace. There's an old English saying "there's nothing as daft as folk." I think this fits your incident with these people quite well. The only other thing I can suggest is...

Thanks, Mono. Does he have a blog?

Isn't Snowpea a neat name? I hope you post again soon, LR. I'm really enjoying your posts here. It calms me. I haven't got any poly issues at the moment, but I suppose a bit like you, I'm in expansion mode. You're studying. I'm writing for a living, and my brain feels a bit like an out-of-shape...

Phew, I've worked through this last struggle and I think I am very like you Lady I. I take on responsibility for everyone else. Now that I've realised it I see it everywhere. I feel so much lighter already. I think I also have made life harder for myself than it has needed to be. You sound like...

Thanks for such an indepth reply Rp. I always appreciate the generosity of your comments :-) I disagree about co-dependence being as totally encompassing as you say however. My ex and I were very co-dependent even at the worst of our relationship, when in many ways we lived separate lives. I...

HI MG, great to hear from you. I think the difference between co-dependence and interdependence is that one is healthy and one is not healthy. Over the past few months I've scaled back my support of Z's relationship with J from encouraging to neutral. I started out with the best of intentions...

You have my sympathies. Did you have libido problems before TP started in her poly relationships? Why did you give your blessing when you're feeling so bad? Or didn't you realise? I have bad feelings about this. TP has Mr A couldn't she step back from this other relationship while you're so...

I had those kind of dreams while my husband and I were separating. I've just finished a guest post for another blog in the niche of my main blog (not poly people). She wanted my story, (not the poly one). It brought up for me feelings I had prior to my marriage breakup. I always saw myself in a...

:)It's nice to have one's realizations acknowledged.

Hey Lady I I am very impressed with you. For one so new you really seem to have come to grips with poly/mono in a very measured and healthy way.:) I don't quite understand what you mean when you say that your personal boundaries are welded together? Perhaps you could explain that a bit...