Search results

It seems like you need to fix your marriage before taking on more relationships. No, he hasn't asked you to close it up, probably because he is embarrassed that he asked you to open it up in the first place, but he obviously isn't coping. Just as couples think they can repair a broken...

Yes, well, it started out at 1-2 glasses with dinner every day. But as my marriage worsened, I started using it to feel better. The 'usual" crept up to 2-3-4 glasses; weekend socialising would usually cut out a bottle, and when I was particularly upset, I would just take a whole bottle of wine...

Hi I sent you a pm but I don't know if it went. Please feel free to email me :-)

Thanks, Magdlyn. There is no denying that the Bible says many things, often contradictory and widely interpreted. This is why I mix it with how I feel when applying it to my life. I also don't believe that spirituality of any kind is a 'one size fits all' deal. I think we each have to discover...

Okay, here's the long story. My husband and I were pretty New Age and open-minded. My mother was a Christian. We sent our eldest daughter to a Christian school. I had tried to get into Christianity a number of times. About 8 or 9 years ago, a chance meeting with a man caused my daughter to...

There is something lovely about the thin delicate pages of a big old Bible. Mine has all these guides and commentaries in it. When I opened Romans, one of the first things that struck me was a commentary on adultery. I find it really, really hard to get past this when it comes to polyamory...

Thanks, SN. Surprisingly, even having this discussion on the forum is upsetting me again. I'll go and dig my Bible out of the basement and check out Romans. I bought a very large Bible a number of years ago, which I keep trying to get rid of, and it keeps coming back to me. I shifted it down...

Thanks for taking some much interest in this, JG. Yes, please email me your response. I think it will be very helpful. There is definitely something very deep here for me. Even reading your response had in tears I'm typing through tears. There is definitely a connection in my head between...

With this kind of love and thinking underpinning your relationships, I'm sure everything will work out. This is probably the most loving thing I have read on any forum. I wish you the very best. :)

I know many Christians are fine with polyamory, but the reality is that most are not. My daughter is Christian and we used to be very very close. The fact that my partner is polyamorous has pushed us apart, to a certain extent. I can understand how a Christian mother would feel about her...

I thought you and Dinged might have a lot in common. I agree that this is much more than a poly issue. This is his "Restless Heart Syndrome" and a life gone crazy. You guys need therapy. If your wife isn't getting support and feeling any better with her lover, she really should consider putting...

Hi Red I agree with everything the others have said but I am like you (kind of soft/mono, poly/friendly because of a poly partner, but would rather be mono). So I get it. We've tried the unicorn thing too and it didn't work for us. You have a couple of things going for you. One is a that your...

Ooooh a fellow Aussie, hi there. Yes, I agree with you as well. I'm not staunchly mono and I've decided that if my partner wants to explore local poly relationships (he already has a long distance love), I will as well. It might not work but I'm tired of all the associated crap that goes along...

I thought "promiscuousness" was kinda over, and that people (especially mature adults) now got to explore their sexuality however they want, as long as they don't hurt anyone and are responsible with protection. With teenagers, I'd be a bit more concerned. But I think you guys are old enough to...

Good on you Robert :) I think you are doing very well with this at the moment. I wish you some good times with your lady. Hugs

I'm sorry I can't be more reassuring:( I'd love to be able to say something different). Even I was surprised at the outcome of the survey. But then we must remember that these forums do attract people who are struggling. Sagency says he knows of polymono relationships that work well. I...

How did you end up where you are? In my opinion, if your relationship was a lake, you let it become very polluted. Your wife has adapted to life inside that polluted lake and you are struggling with her adaptations. I want to thank you, Robert, because reading your posts has helped me realise...

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=12126 I hope you can link to the above thread. I'm not very good on the technical side of this forum. If you can, scroll down a few posts and you will find a post that Sagency wrote on making polymono relationships work. This is the best thing...

One of the greatest challenges monopoly relationships have is inequity. You may be in pain but as a result of that pain your husband is having to work extra hard to work and pick up the stuff that you can't do. He is probably also missing out on intimacy? You have your loving connection with...

Do you think because he isn't bi and you are only looking at females that he won't be feeling replaceable? Of course he will. Male or female, I don't think there is any difference. For some people there is, and they can cope more easily with their partner having a same-gender relationship. But...