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Mags, I think David was describing the agreement he had with Lena when things were just a cuck setup, before transitioning to polyamory.

Last Friday, I helped Ocean pull together a last minute enrolment application for a post grad qualification he needs for his new career path. If I hadn't pushed for it, he would have missed the deadline and just waited for semester two (July start). I think he's happy that I gave him a big...

That sounds like fun, Bluebird! Hope you both have a great time, you deserve it x

Thanks for the update, David. I'd been thinking of you now and then and wondering how things had been going for you. It sounds like you have established something stable to go forward with for a while and see how it works for you. Your plan re Grant's son is really sensible. Best of luck with...

I really like this approach! I haven't yet had to navigate potential dates visiting our home but if I did, I reckon I'm going to use this method. One thing I keep in mind is when I'm giving veto vs when I'm asking for input. Often I do want to take on board the kids' opinion about something...

I'd agree that the vibe between you and casual sex partners could be different and more sex-charged than with other visitors. I think it is respectful of the 12 and 14 year old to keep their home environment feeling safe and comfortable for them. Whatever that means for them. I think while...

Bluebird, sending you warm thoughts. Such a horrible surprise :( we have so much trust that other people will speak up rather than put up with things... I can't imagine how disorienting everything is for you right now. Re the Oreos, sometimes the surprise element gets me too. When I'm not...

That sounds super yummy! Hadn't heard of it before but now I know what to hunt out if I'm ever that side of the world again!

Jaw drop. PunkRock miscommunicating is quite a theme lately, huh. Do you think he is so scared of confrontation sometimes that he lies? Or is it really a mistake each time? At some point I'd get suspicious if this kept happening with a partner. I'm really sorry about your best friend's mum...

Thanks for saying more, RP. And no, you actually didn't say honour originally. I lifted that from SenatorBinks, whoops. I can definitely understand that. I mistook what you were saying before. I thought you meant the laudable part was someone staying with someone they didn't want to be with...

Amarula?

Hey, nice to hear an update from you, RP. I had a similar reaction to SenatorBinks re you seeing "honor and integrity" in someone who is staying in an abusive relationship because he had committed to the relationship. Well, you said *possibly abusive". But even without the abusive dynamic, I'd...

Thanks for this, Mags! Reading GG's reply my eyes glazed over a bit (not cos of GG's advice, just the lack of nicknames for everyone!) and I thought once again: "This is why we have the guideline!" You're such a hero for fixing this up across multiple new posts. Your community service is...

How have your other LDRs worked? Do you feel you need to have a plan for meeting often / ending the LDR in the middle/long term or are you comfortable with an ongoing LDR? A lot depends on what you want out of the relationship. If you're happy for it to be the pace and shape and distance it is...

Amy and Bree's relationship is not your circus. Unless something that's happening between them directly affects you somehow, I'd say just step back and not think about it too much. Be there for Amy if she wants to debrief or needs support, but don't feel you have to be the sounding board either...

I usually decide to take people at face value. So if they say they are withdrawing cos of a Them thing, I decide that's true. It may or may not be, but it breaks my brain to second guess someone. So often we can doubt people because they don't work like us. Sounds like this is definitely...

Home life is chugging along. Ocean has more or less decided on a new career path and is making plans for further study this year combined with part-time work. He is so much slower than me at moving on these things! If it were me, and I'd made the decision, I'd be booked into the study program...

Cardio sex, yay :)

Oh, it was definitely worth mentioning! And I could tell you were just concerned. It did make me double check the general health info, though :) Week 3 and things have been going really well. I weighed myself last Monday and I was surprised to be 93.6kg (206lb) - I didn't expect so much of an...

Sorry to hear of your nephew, and hope your brother, mother and others in the family feel supported through their grief. Take it easy, yourself, too. Not sure how much you get leaned on by other family members but sometimes if you're not the closest to something emotionally you can carry things...