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Lol. I won’t disagree with you there. It’s certainly not my preference and I’ll speak my piece. But it’s not a big enough issue to me to start drama over. Hopefully they’re just respectful.

Thanks so much for the thorough response and for sharing your experience. All excellent and logical questions. First, I still prefer Adam and my bed to be our space, just us (and the dogs who take up an inordinate amount of space lol). I did wake up again this morning to them in the bed with me...

For background, we’ve been open sexually most of our relationship. It’s just the romance/poly piece on Adam’s side that is new. I have no desire for a second romantic relationship, but I don’t mind the occasional play on my side.

This makes perfect sense. Thank you. Sometimes it's hard to avoid trying to fit into a box once you've been conditioned. I just need to roll with it and see where things go. :)

So, I'll apologize in advance if I'm over-posting, but I want to learn as much as possible as a total newbie. Over the past few weeks since the last post, things have seemed to settle down into something a bit more structured and a bit less volatile and emotional. That said, we seem to have...

I think in fairness, that's probably more on me. They've never said me saying that was drama because I've never verbally objected. So I guess if I've never expressed my position on the topic, there's no way for them to know my feelings about it. I'll have to do as Magdlyn suggested and have a...

Certainly can't say I find it ideal. I'd prefer they use the guest room as their room and that the bedroom be Adam and my space. But I'm trying to be agreeable and not cause drama if at all possible.

Update: Wednesday night went well overall, with a few hiccups. Braden came over about an hour before Adam got home from work. That was a little awkward, but not terribly. As I've mentioned before, he and I have similar interests, so there was no lack of conversation. Once Adam got home, they...

Yep, that pretty much sums it up. I'm very hopeful that they've communicated enough in the last few days that expectations are a bit closer. I guess we'll soon find out....

Well, so a quick update here. Braden reached out to both of us today and apologized for "being mean and petty." He asked if he could come over and bring dinner as an apology. I told him he didn't need to apologize to me because we hadn't had any altercations, but that he and Adam should...

He and I are actually both 35. Adam is 48. But I get the same impression that he has relatively little experience with relationships in general and even less with anything poly.

Hey Kevin, Yeah, I think that's the primary roadblock we're running into here. Primarily due to how intertwined our lives are (having been together 16 years), Adam and myself see a need to have a primary/secondary situation with any poly arrangement, at least at first. Unfortunately, Braden...

Excellent points. I can see exactly where you're coming from. Thank you.

Nope. Didn't get anything wrong at all. Overall, I think I'm handling things pretty well, but Adam isn't communicating appropriately and Braden has different expectations. We do have a guest room and they sleep back there sometimes, which is totally fine by me. Unfortunately, I just don't...

Thank you all for this feedback. It’s so incredibly helpful! Adam and I definitely have some work to do. But he has been incredibly helpful in the moment. You all have been such great friends in the moment. As I learn more about things, I so appreciate your partnership!

Those are some great ideas. Thank you :)

I posted a couple months back that my husband came out to me as poly and expressed an interest in pursuing that. I, of course, was supportive and just said that communication and mutual consent would be critical. Fast forward-- after a couple dates that didn’t go anywhere, he has met a guy who...

Having (unfortunately) moved from Indianapolis to Texas a few years ago, I’m very excited for you. Indianapolis is a wonderful city. So much to do and so much to see. Also generally nice people. Have fun!

I had bookmarked the Poly Relationships Corner section in my browser and totally missed that there was an Introductions section, so now that I noticed, I figured I'd say Hi. :) I'm Liam, a 35M, married for 12 years (together 16 years) to Wade, a 48M (names have been changed to protect the not...

Very good point. Thank you.