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I wonder if you think your lack of interest helped to drive him to spend MORE time with her? I do think it's hard to get used to having less time with a romantic partner, though this is part of living a poly lifestyle. It's part of why I prefer an integrated dating style; I find I get MORE...

She's making assumptions based on a mono mindset. I do believe the difference btw monoamorous and polyamorous people comes down to wiring. It's unfortunate that this means she ends up hurting the OP, but I'm not sure there is anything he can say to change how she thinks :( Do you know of...

I truly hate the phrase, "putting poly on the back burner," as if you could put a fundamental part of yourself on hold. However, you could put dating NEW people on hold. OP, the things she says are typical of monoamorous people who believe you can only love one person. THerefore, any other...

OP, I think you're being incredibly patient and understanding. I do think you have the right to have her be told. I understand that you and he had a falling out, so I'm not blaming her for finding it awkward to talk about this now. However, it's time, especially for his current reasons for...

This happened with my ex-metamour. She, however, would get very upset when this caused him (naturally) to have MORE sex with me. After all, he still had his needs :-p Did you experience any sort of bad cycles like this (specifically regarding your sex life with him, not your emotional...

Yep, and she's unhappy about not seeing her bf. OP, if you want to see, don't be afraid to. But I would recommend not being too public about it till things settle down.

Good advice, but there's a big difference between dating and continuing a relationship that already exists.

That's exactly how our polyship works. Feel free to pm me :)

With quads? No, I don't offer advice in those cases. Just saying, you needn't make her feel like her partner is the only "exceptionally unfeeling" person out there that would consider making her end a secondary relationship. It's an incredibly common scenario. He could just be one of the...

You mean like 90% of poly, or "poly," couples out there that think they can terminate their partner's relationships if theirs fails? Especially in cases of quads formed with two existing couples. That happens all the time.

So, your husband is upset that you have feelings for someone else? Not that you have other people you have sex with.

So, your husband is poly but he's upset that you see other people. How unusual :-p

Due to a series of events, I actually AM a triad of two bi females and a straight male, (although possibly soon to be THREE bi females and one straight male AND it isn't closed; there are multiple other partners involved; just not part of our "polyship"). In three years, I've only met a...

Since most people are hetero, and most date separately, I'm assuming most are MFM or FMF with all being straight.

Oh, last I saw you were still hoping to have talks. Missed the resolution. Anyway, glad this was just a small problem that everyone was able to resolve simply.

Why DO you need a couple weeks' warning? I ask, because it's not clear you're giving a solid reason to Ginger. There's a huge difference in, "I need to know your schedule in advance, so I can plan out my week and be sure to accommodate your schedule so that we can see each other." and "I need...

Might be helpful. There is an /r/polyfamilies subreddit. Is that what you want? At any rate, might be good to recruit from there.

Exactly how are you planning on remaining exclusive and dating others? Unless you mean emotional exclusivity to Beth? You sound young and inexperienced, which is fine, everyone has to start somewhere. But you do seem to think you can control how quickly relationships develop, what kind of...

It's not a "girl thing." It's an insecure girl thing.

Lots to process, feel free to PM: But one thing? You spoke of "them being intimate in our home..." Isn't it her home, too? Aren't you and she both free to bring who you like back there?