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There is another thing that may be happening here. Is it possible that your husband has never felt safe being poly? Perhaps your mouth tells him he could have been poly all these years, but your actions have shown him otherwise. Perhaps you have shown jealous streaks, controlling behavior...

All I can tell you is that you need to progress very slowly and at his pace. I have been where you are and it sucks. There are few things as frustrating as having external forces dictate and control your relationship with another human being. In my situation the woman and I basically got...

He feels left out because he doesn't get reciprocation in the form of your Dom's wife. It's the typical swinger mentality that everything has to be equal and nobody should ever be left out. It's this mentality that causes people to treat their spouses in the same manner that children treat...

I am only guessing but I believe that your hostility at larger social gatherings are due to an expectation that you and your wife should be together and should have a united front at parties instead of her and her boyfriend. It makes you feel like a third wheel and it makes you feel like you...

you're looking for a triad if your husband insists on "sharing" this woman. Do a search for unicorns. I strongly suggest you look for a woman compatible to YOU. Without any expectations of your husband being involved. Remember that this is a person and that she will not be there to enhance...

you claim you're not certain if you can have other partners. Is that his rule or your uncertainty in yourself?

1. First things first. His erectile problems with you are two fold. a. You cheated on him and he may still be harboring resentment. b. He has new relationship energy with his girlfriend and as a result she is new and interesting for him, plus she has not...

for those of us who are ...*ahem* ...orally fixated...sloppy seconds is NEVER good

Pretty much the same thing happened to me and I am no longer part of that circle of friends because of the bad feelings. The experiment of poly is over because nobody was truly prepared to deal with the emotions or do the necessary reading. Feelings got hurt all around and its one of my...

I don't think its reasonable to expect him to completely cut off communication with her. He can certainly change the nature of their relationship but demanding complete and total subservience to you while you are angry and bitter will only cause resentment. Its no more reasonable than it would...

Its highly unlikely you can do it without hurting his feelings. From what I have seen the only way poly can be brought up in the middle of a monogamous marriage without hurting feelings is by suggesting a triad. That is, finding a partner both spouses can share (assuming one of them is...

His request to have sex right before you leave on your date is his way of marking his territory I suspect. I hope you shower after that because I'm not aware of many men who would appreciate the whole sloppy seconds thing.

you sound like a misogynistic tool. I pity your family.

You abandoned your marriage and completely upended his world. He does not see stability with you, you have caused heart break and made his life more difficult with your need for poly. As a result of all this he is hoping to get back some of what he lost. In the interim you are a comfortable...

you will never make this work. There is animosity between these men that you created. Now they each see the other one as a problem. You overreacted with the Craigslist thing. You had two men and went off the deep end when you saw him looking at Craigslist. It's good you were able to better...

Don't get involved. If its emotional abuse you will make things worse if you try to white knight your way into the middle of it. I think all you can do is inform her of what you are seeing from your perspective and then distance yourself. She is an adult in HER relationship. She needs to...

This spoke to me as I'm sure it will many of you. http://truththeory.com/2014/11/01/why-you-should-never-give-up-on-love/

I'm guessing that its not that you're consistent in bringing it up at the wrong time, I'll bet that there is consistently no right time for your partner. They will always be yuck about it regardless of the time or their mood. Its their issue...not yours. Just tell them precisely when you...

yeah sounds like caster is gone. It doesn't surprise me. Both guys were mentally preparing to emotionally manage the presence of each other and got sidelined with this spontaneous threesome. They weren't given any warning and I'm sure are hurt that it didn't involve either one of them.

First things first. Metamour is the wrong term. Your husband and this boyfriend are metamours to each other. Your are a metamour to any girlfriends your husband has. Boyfriend is simply a boyfriend, lover, mack daddy, sugar buns or whatever else you like to call him. Your husband changing...