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I think he values me but he's just not capable of thinking outside the box. He's a simple guy - not stupid or low IQ, but not someone who sits comfortably with complex life stuff. I've always said I think he looks at 'us' and can't shake all the things we're not despite acknowledging all the...

Thanks for your perspectives. Good food for thought and the more I look from the outside the easier to process it seems. I had a bit of a search and found this post I think it could be a good middle ground. I pick the end date, after this period of free time. We stay in the moment and end...

To briefly recap my situation, I've been the hinge on a vee, my longish distance FWB turned boyfriend and I have had a number of obstacles interfere with the flow of our connection. He's been a touch avoidant, this used to make me anxious but we managed to move to a more secure place. Most...

I'm long distance. I have learned once the NRE has passed the connection dwindles without conscious effort. My boyfriend is much more laid back than me so it's easier for him but I feel it and sometimes it does feel like we slip into friends territory. I really have no advice, if I were you...

I definitely see it as a deep inner connection... to what is for the individual to discover/decide.

Hey thanks all. Re - his job, it's a career changing project, he's opted to give it his all. Not sustainable as a long-term worklife but it isn't the norm. He does not resent the work or workload or working when I've opted to not to. We talked yesterday, also went to a friend's bday party and...

Oh God to have 2 bathrooms would be heaven. We live in an awesome location in an adequate house. Very lucky to have it as there's a housing crisis... We both like sharing our bed, sleeping next to eachother brings intimacy that could be lost with separate rooms.

Husband doesn't date ATM, is not looking for it but will 1 day. Sorry about that. He never usually gets upset about any communication with other men. The bedroom is kinda my zone for chilling and having my own space in the house. He chills comfortably everywhere, I like the solitude there...

Little background, new to poly. Hinge in a straight vee. Partner of nearly 30 years Boyfriend is long distance, kinda casual but sweet and rewarding for all. Partner's been working really hard. So have I. Tensions mount, we get snappy, I feel like he started it but I know enough about...

100% join FABSWINGERS. It's a free UK site that almost all of the UK scene uses. It's both wonderful and awful, there's good and bad but also lots of party listing's and reviews for clubs. If you're in London or could take a trip there why not check out the Torture Garden parties if you're...

I tend to pity instead of hate - except when someone is a nasty piece of work actively trying to hurt someone I care for... and even then any ill will is short-lived as I focus on being there for the person they are trying to damage. I had a love that temporarily turned to hate before pity and...

I think your original stipulation - no other men is only fair if it goes both ways and you can only sleep with men...

I love astrology. It really clicks with me. I'm finding uranius ruled placements in or aspects to the relationship houses seem to indicate unconventionality. So Aquarius ruling the 5th (romance), 7th (partnerships/marriage) or 8th (sex) or the planet Uranus in there. Also Juno is the astroid...

My mother and 1 of my daughters live overseas and I usually visit them a lot but our International boarders have been closed until just a few days ago. And my mum is high risk, and my kid here at home is super high risk and I work in an Industry that got decimated and may or may not recover...

6 years ago my partner tried to drag me kicking and screaming into a poly lifestyle after he fell for a lass he was supposed to be dating casually. One of the things I wailed at him was - "But who will you think of when they play a love song on the radio?" He didn't even understand the...

I never even realised that I get anxious until recently so maybe it's pandemic related anxiety or since I am new to poly - relationship stuff. Either way every now and then I tense up, feel stuck. I like mediations and affirmations - unlock your life, Kenneth Soares, Michael Sealy... Kenneth...

It's not a big deal - it seems like a really big red flag to me. 3 dates he's still just a boyfriend or a crush even - if he's digging his heals in and pushing your boundaries I doubt this attitude is going to soften or become more appealing as the relationship deepens.

After reading some advice here I've swapped rules for guidelines. My Nesting Partner still feels we can call something a rule but have room for discussion. However you look at it there's always room for discussion but the polite/right thing to do is have that discussion early. IF this approach...

We're MUCH more out as swingers than poly BUT we're new to poly plus covid has meant we haven't seen many of our closest long-time friends since we began the poly journey. Regarding coming out as having an open relationship - we have a strong circle of friends from when we were all in our early...

I'm relating to the ebb and flow of connection. I am in a LDR and I can attest that when we see each-other weekly we stay connected. Here in Australia they've put hard borders up between states to control the spread of covid - as a result we went 8 weeks without seeing eachother but in the 4...