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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    Definitely busy. Happy? - yes with relationships overall. Exciting. Eye-opening. Revealing. - work - OMG I can't even, ... everyone is angry, too much work and not enough support ("Now, can you do the same trick - ON FIRE?!?"). Being in medicine 2 years into a pandemic that everyone is sick...
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    I concur! This year MrS's Mom and StepDad just had the two of us for Thanksgiving (I guess his sister's family had other plans). We did do a jigsaw puzzle as always but had take out Chinese - it was fab (we used to do this in Philly if we didn't go home). We did my family's T-giving on Sunday...
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    To continue the "bullet journal" of things to discuss later. MrClean - yup, that's still happening! ;) Waif - currently incummunicado, MrS is working on meeting up with her elsewhere for a few days next week ... new topic = PrinZs - my new "it's complicated" girlfriend - several reasons that...
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    Mentoring and Dating ENM Folks

    I would have to ask what you actually meant by "mentor"... Like, is this a mutually agreed upon relationship structure or just a descriptor of how it worked out? Someone might refer to someone with more experiences as being their "mentor" in that they were educated and informed by their...
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    LSB Weight Loss Daily Goals and Accomplishments

    Necro-ing this thread for an update. My last post in this thread was in January 2020...I had been doing Keto and exercising and had made it from 171# (*BMI = 30.8, clinically OBESE) down to (at least) 138# (BMI= 24.8, higher end normal weight) - WOOT!!! And then COVID happened... And then Dude...
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    You are rockin' that outfit!
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    Just a quick note to jot down topics to discuss later - when I am feeling bloggy: MrClean - just off of hiatus, "doggus interuptus" Waif - MrS's foray into being a White Knight, "problem child", SEP
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    Openness and other personality traits (link to personality test in thread)

    I always struggle with these quizes - are they asking how I feel vs. how I act vs. how people view me? Me now vs. me throughout my life? For instance: question about avoiding responsibility - I grew up being hyper-responsible, oldest child and my parents trusted me and I wanted to live up to...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    OMG I want to touch the puppy! (I am currenly dog-sitting a husky with my mastiff, Monday I am dog-sitting an asshole of a tiny terrier and a pittie...I love all of the cuddles, ALL of the time!
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    I love that you are reassuring Rainee re: love!
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    How to Make it About Her...When it's not About Her?

    I always love your advice GG but just wanted to point out:. The compromise can make many shapes. MrS is much more comfortable if I DON'T talk about my poly thoughts and feelings, he finds it exhausting, he would rather just hear my conclusions and discuss those objectively, just having me...
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    Thank you for reminding me to put this on my Bucket List as well - the videos are mesmerizing!!!
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    Green Tea KitKats are the best flavor

    My husband agrees that Green Tea KitKats are delicious - he has not had Milk Tea KitKats but is inclined to think that they would be delightful. (I predict a rise in our internet-fueled KitKat budget as of right STAT now!) JaneQ PS. He scored a mixed bag of Japanese flavored candies somewhere...
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    Consensual Non-Monogamy (LGB & Heterosexual) and Relationship Satisfaction

    Took the survey - I didn't know how to answer some of the question, it seemed to be asking not just about me but my (current/past/future) partner's willingness - I can only really speak to my own.. Also, the questions seemed to ask two things, but only allowed one answer. Willing to A but only...
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    Does marriage affect autonomy in Polyamory?

    :LOL: - Yes...did you not know you had a poly-doppelganger?!!:ROFLMAO: I was typing up a much longer reply (as usual) and decided to save it for a blog post...solo poly appeals to me, MrS would rather not have to deal with living with a poly person, we will figure stuff out...
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    Does marriage affect autonomy in Polyamory?

    "Marriage changes things..." "Sex changes things..." Conventional wisdom - which does hold some truth in terms of personal and societal expectations. I wrote in my blog a long time ago ( 10 years apparently) about the subtle difference it made to me after I married MrS (almost 26 years ago!)...
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    Rule has been broken... What to do?

    Umm... While I agree with DingedHeart that mis-interpreting the safer sex rule to apply only to sex workers is not really plausible...but - If you told him to find a girlfriend, then why would he NOT think an ACTUAL GIRLFRIEND?!?! (not necessarily bringing her to your shared house but...
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    Plur and poly

    My introduction to the idea of poly came from reading old Heinlein novels as a kid (it wasn't called poly then) and a fascination with folkrock and the historical1960s counter-culture movements and writings of that period. I have only recently come to appreciate some sub-genres of EDM and...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    Yay to "good day"s!!! (I had one, too!)
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    Hey from Finland!

    Hello and Welcome! Read, ask, share as you feel comfortable. Excited but nervous is a perfectly reasonable place to be starting from. How far along are you in the process of Disentangling? If you haven't come across this concept previously, this article is a good place to start...
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