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    hello eveyone. from Birmingham Alabama

    Hello, attractive couple! Welcome to polyamory.com - I hope you find a lot of useful info here. Since no one else (except Kevin, >Hi, Kevin!<) has been by to comment, I should probably let you know that what you are looking for (a single bisexual woman to be in a closed relationship with both...
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    BC 🇨🇦 in the 🌲🌲🌲

    Hello and welcome! I am also interested in off-grid living - I live out in the country and utilities are not always reliable here. I like having back-ups for my back-ups. Electricity is our current focus. I have an in-line natural gas back-up generator, it is hella-old and the Kohler...
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    Female-led relationships

    I find it interesting that it isn't until Level 4, the most extreme, that it is mentioned that the female decides how finances are handled. I wouldn't consider my relationship with MrS to be a FLR, but it apparently looks that way to a lot of people (i.e., men who ask me if I "wear the pants" in...
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    “Am I The Asshole” (AITA) subReddit - Poly topic

    Throughout the years we have seen various conversations here about poly and kids and divorce and custody etc. This AITA convo is a reminder that nothing on the internet is private and kids are more perceptive than many people think...
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    Vagina Size

    Not directly relevant, but Dude's ex-GF used to routinely pronounce (to anyone really), "I have a HUGE vag!" which I thought was an odd thing to announce to the world (and it's not like she was stretched from childbirth - she didn't have any kids). Speaking of which, the wife of a friend of...
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    New and confused

    Kevin may be along later to offer you a more formal welcome, but HELLO! From my (one person) perspective - you won't actually know until you KNOW from experience - it's kind of a leap of faith. But you are right in the idea that you can't put the genie back in the bottle, either. In my...
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    How to watch

    The first threesome I was invited to was with MrS and his ex-GF (ex-at the time, not just now - they converted to FWB sometime after they broke up - more info in my Journey blog from years ago). Now, she was bi- or at least bi-curious but this was framed as a treat for him. I was the one who...
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    Thank you - and I agree! I wrote a bit about this on here somewhere before but Dude would say things like, "If we weren't dating, I wouldn't be friends with her." I think that is fine for a ONS or temporary NSA partner - but "dating" implies (to me) at least he potential for an ongoing...
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    Thank you all for your kind words and well wishes - it was a terrifying experience and I am sure the scars will always be there, but they feel healed over for the time being. MrS and I crawled back into our den to lick our wounds (easy during Covid-times!) and are now starting to emerge. Sorry...
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    I have been away - my world was unstable after Dude went nuclear and I was afraid... For those of you who were here then - Dude went postal, assaulted MrS, and held us hostage at gunpoint - MrS landed in the trauma ICU (He is okay now, mostly). This has ZERO to do with poly and everything to do...
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    Irony Is Dead

    Just hypothetically, if you were out with someone who wasn't a "partner" and "something happened" how would that go down? I have a few ICE (In Case of Emergency) numbers in my phone, datebook, etc. My best friend (one of my ICE numbers) knows how to contact all of my people. I don't mind...
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    So THAT happened... I am not ready to talk about it - and probably never will be (knowing me). Dude is out of the picture (and my house) - almost 10 years and it ends in such an UGLY, SCARY way...I may not be back, not because all of you haven't been kind and fonts of information, but because...
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    Hello!

    Hello and welcome! This is a good place to discuss and read and explore. You will find a variety of perspectives (some of which might actually agree!:p) Dating a couple, in particular, has a lot of it's own particular pitfalls that people new to poly often are not aware of. "Solo poly" is a...
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    Stop The Vinsanity...

    Unfortunately, the utility of the current antibody tests are not impressive when applied to a single individual - they are more useful on a population (or clinical trial) level as the incidence of false positives (as a result of cross reactivity with other coronaviruses?) and false negatives (as...
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    Sharing sex toys. Yes, No, some?

    Yay! So glad to contribute stuff I know!
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    Sharing sex toys. Yes, No, some?

    So glad you enjoyed it! Anytime:D
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    Sharing sex toys. Yes, No, some?

    Biology Lesson OK - you asked for it!:D The cells lining the vagina are "squamous cells," multiple layers of which form the "squamous epithelium." The cells lining the inside of the cervical are "columnar cells," A single layer of which forms the "columnar (or glandular) epithelium." The...
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    Co-dependency and heart ache

    Some very good advice and food for thought has been offered up here by other posters - I am going to go off on a bit of a tangent here and talk about the "marriage" idea. As has been pointed out - marriage means different things to different people. What exactly does marriage mean/signify to...
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    Sharing sex toys. Yes, No, some?

    There is no rule against reviving old threads if people want to continue the conversation! Some folks may have missed it the first time around (or joined after). Just because it was revived by spam (thanks for those doing the reporting!) doesn't mean that we can't continue the convo. (Posters...
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    The Notebook of JaneQSmythe

    Are you ever reading something and, even though you recognize all of the words and they are in your native language, despite re-reading and really paying attention, you are unable to make heads or tails of what the person is trying to convey? I consider myself to be a pretty smart and literate...
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