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Thanks! I found it printed on the inside of a water-bottle etiquette. Since Adams is one of my favourite authors and the quote fits polyamory so well, I thought it must be fate :)!

Ok, first a hello, then a lot of pondering. The thing is, as long as you are seen with a man, known to date a man and publically acknowledge you are dating a man you are assumed to be straight. No way around it. As long as you are seen with a woman, known to date a woman and publically...

Hi there! There's tons of advice already as to "how to bring up poly". "Dating" and "coming out" might be useful tag searches. To put it very shortly, I would drop increasing hints, mention my bf going on a date, talk about polyamory on the news or in fiction, etc.

:( Poor babby. Dating is brutal. Just for those of you who are not mired knee-deep in Finnish politics, I am happy to announce that an openly gay and married candidate has just been selected for the final round of the presidentail elections! Might take a few decades still for openly poly, but...

Haha, I can imagine the teacher-kid conversation: "Mummy is coming to pick me up from school today, because Daddy moved to Grandma's, because he met this lady and now there is a boundary break and everybody communicated and now Mummy needs compersion." A guy I had the hugest crush on in...

Okay, let me rephrase to see if I understood it correctly. Something happened a year ago, which he thinks you have not sufficiently atoned for. He is trying to hurt you, because according to his perception, you hurt him first. He can have his unique definition of dating, and you can dislike...

(Thanks for merging the threads, mods!) Hmm, am I sensing here a "I/we don't want to break up, but I/we don't really want to be together either, so maybe having other partners will keep them from leaving me?" theme? Seriously, if your primary relationship is in trouble, introducing poly will...

Hi there! A situation where one member of the couple IDs as polyamorous and the other doesn't is usually called a poly/mono or mono/poly relationship.

Might be eventually depressing, but I'll get over it, I always do ;). Welcome!

Thanks for the support, rory. What I was thinking but didn't have the nerve to say :). Yesterday we had a talk with Vanilla about being/staying out and what kind of Do Ask, We'll Tell policy we want for our eventual married life with possible kids. I was first shocked, then amused and...

I can't remember if I participated on that discussion, but yeah, all relationships end eventually. Is a relationships which started in your twenties and lasted till the day you (or they) died more of a success story than one that started in your fifties and lasted for the rest of your life...

I love this! Sorry, nothing less inane to say atm.

Ah, I'm stressing out so badly with my upcoming internship. I have a difficult time to go with the flow when I think I will need to try find a position that would offer future prospects, because finding employment in my line of work is far from easy. I find taking life as it comes hardest when...

Yup, sorry, this cowherder stuff just triggers me. I shouldn't have posted when I knew something was annoying the heck out of me. If she is stressing you out, the last resort I can think of is to erase her from your life completely. Cut off all contacts online and IRL, and request Brody not...

I think there's some internal conditioning I have that says jumping in the sack with people you've just met is not a good start for a relationship. Or that going slow is preferable to going fast. As to you, riftara, I just read through your blog and have to say wow. You have a lot on your...

How can you break up with someone without having ever met them? You mean she broke off all online communication? Have you hung out with the boy? Do you still do? I'm confused. :unsure:

Haha, this is going to make me look so bad. :D Sometime during dates 1-3 with a new person, there will be sex. If it's nice and cool, there will be other sex dates and hanging out. After a month or two, there's a check-in on what exactly is going on, if we are FWBs, dating, or in a...

Polyphobia I'm not a big fan of calling aggression towards members of a group because they are members of that group phobia of any kind, but alternative words are hard to come by. None really describes the mix of judgementalism, scandalism and disgust many people exhibit when they hear that...

Ahem, how exactly does cheating and then trying to make it all go away by turning it into a triad constitute a solid relationship? The initial mistake was him cheating, something you guys probably would have needed a lot more than a month to get over. Frankly, him saying he will be unlikely to...

Absolutely! I make a personal mission of contacting everyone in my area whom I don't already know and who is >90% Match with me.