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As to belonging here or not, I think that many people here would agree with a definition of a polyamorous person as someone who has the ability and willingness to form multiple romantic relationships, or simply as someone who is capable of loving multiple people romantically at the same time...

Hello and welcome! I'm struggling with timeline/pronouns here. So, you did have an experience with that woman you followed on the beach, or was it just a fantasy that spiced up things for a while? And it is your now wife who is only interested in poly/other women when her stress levels are...

Hullo and welcome to the forum! Don't want to sound all condescending, but isn't it a bit early to start talking about ordinal numbers for husbands and wives if you remain married to other people? What is keeping you married, anyway? As to should it be this or should it be that, that's really...

NRE and polyamory bring the cracks in your primary/established relationship into very sharp focus. I don't think there is any reason to despair yet. All relationships have issues. The new one will end up having those, too. Have you discussed this with your respective partners?

Ours is "Call if you are going to stay over". Just so there's no massive waiting-around-and-keeping-the-food-warm -frustrations. And condoms, yes. Vanilla added that we should keep each other informed on what's happening, like any prospective dates coming up etc. That's really no biggie...

So, after a long discussion, me and Vanilla have come to realize that we have more love to share. Ideally, we would like to bring a third into our relationships. We would all love each other equally, it would not be just about sex, but about sharing our whole lives together. We would live...

It's likely. We all have issues. My biggest number one issue atm is that I have been unable to re-organize my work space, which is mentally holding me back from working on my thesis. It gets me really down sometimes. Not wanting to trivialize actual depression, but once I get my act together and...

She might be just having issues with trust, instead of actively wanting to hamper your sexual enjoyment of each other. She doesn't know you - how can she trust you in that when you say you are only having sex with him and your husband? Not only does she have to trust her husband and you, but...

Mine too! Sadly, I think I might not be very good with being my own primary. I wonder if that somehow fuels my desire for poly. This whole exploration for me started with two serious life-threatening illness scares in my little family, when I realized I might lose the people I care about the...

I have only now come to realize why it is so important that you have a good foundation for poly. I used to think that foundations were only for those people who had decided to open a previously monogamous relationship. I didn't have to worry about any of that jazz. Since breaking up with my...

Not only do I agree with another poster that this is akin to having sex in front of other people who have not agreed to watch, it is also happening against her will, and hence is doubly not okay. Has KindaPod told them that he does not wish to witness them interacting that way?

NYCIndie just posted a few links on poly-friendly couples counseling, but I can't for the life of me find it now. I hope she pops up on this thread to share. Regarding abusive relationships: just like Phy said, it's not the frequency, it is the emotional impact of fearing certain situations and...

That's pretty much the deal with me and Sweetheart right now. Mutually acknowledged loving feelings and maybe, someday, we'll be able to meet and not have to feel like we are going behind his wife's back or something. It can still be wonderful and meaningful and yes, frustrating, but would you...

Exhaustion over kids was one of the things that strained my relationship with Moonlighrunner and earlier with Windflower. Although I love their kids to death and strive to see them at least once a week, I would be very wary of getting involved with someone who has small kids living with them again.

Somewhat related to my earlier post: partnering up with a man who already has three serious connections going on for him means you lose out on many of the traditional benefits of partnerships, such as social recognition, legal perks and shared economics. It doesn't have to be like that, but it...

Hullo and welcome! Part of me wants to say yes. He is an adult. His partners are all adults, and they not your responsibility anyway. On the other hand, he may be kidding himself. With the new love interest in the picture he might be telling himself that he has more time in his life than he...

AnnabelMore beat me to it! But I agree with her whole-heartedly: this is not the time to pursue further sexual interactions with Trey and Sage.

Hullo there and welcome to the forum. I am sorry that you are going through some tough times. In my opinion, you shouldn't just pull the plug with this other couple. It wouldn't be fair to you, or fair to them. However, Dion is having conflicted emotions. Intellectually, when the situation is...

Changing definitions Basic stances, basic punches and basic kick. Plus we learned how to free ourselves from a wrist grap. I'm training with the fiance of a friend of mine, so it's a bit embarrassing, since I don't know him very well. AND I'm the only girl on the class. When we did push-ups I...

Oh yes, I have exactly the same thing with Flattie! Sismance perhaps?