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Thank you for your input, dear friends. I've decided what I going to do about this: nothing. At least not for the time being. His feelings and whatever issues he may be experiencing are not my fault, my creation or my responsibility. The fact that I know one valid solution to his dilemma...

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But they aren't, so we only have what's here.

You can trust what people do over what they say. Every time. Actions reveal the heart. This woman is jerking y'all around, manipulating the two of you for her own ends, whatever they may be. She wants your husband to spend hours every day online, but doesn't want to hang out with him. That's...

Get out. Now. And stay out. These two are badly messed up, both of them, and have chaos and ruin all around them. Have no part of it. Instead, work on your own issues, the ones that are making you even hesitate over this unhealthy and dangerous mess. Get out now.

I like tangle. I also like tribe. I haven't really stop to think of a term for my current relationship configuration. If I were going to stick with an alphabetical term, I guess I'm the center of a Y, in that I have Fidelio and two lovers, none of whom currently have other lovers. Nope. I...

Hey polypeeps, here’s a situation I’d like your input on. A friend of mine, Buddy, is into me. Fidelio was the first one to notice this and point out it out, but once I started observing the signs, umm . . . yeah. Buddy’s a great guy, there’s a lot I really like about him. But he has a few...

So it's going to be *that* kind of party, is it? Alrighty then! ;)

Hear hear!

OneSoul: FYI: Tiana stopped posting on this thread months ago, and has started a blog in the Life Stories and Blogs section. :)

Happy Birthday, Somegeezer! And many happy returns of the day!

It sounds like you're doing everything you reasonably can to make her feel comfortable and welcome. This is ultimately her issue and there's only so much you, or your husband, or anyone else in the world, can do to address her issue. So continue to be patient and supportive, keep encouraging...

I think of you, dear Redpepper, as a poly mentor in my life. "Mentor" is not quite right, as you and I do not generally have direct communication on issues I am personally facing; "exemplar" or "role model" are more accurate terms. You and your tribe (especially Mono, PN and Derby) set a...

Good call, AT. I think you're on to something there.

When I'm going out, for whatever reason, Fidelio knows where I'm going (or at least a general idea) and when I'm expecting to be home. He does the same for me when he leaves the house. We do this out of respect, love and consideration for one another, not out of a desire to control one...

What Mags said, 100%. Sourel, I am so sorry you are going through this. I truly wish you the very best. If half of what you write is accurate, you deserve so much more from your partner(s).

My heart goes out to you, Sourel. Bless your heart. I have been the cheated-on spouse, although not in the heart-wrenching circumstances you describe. My deep condolences for the loss and grief you've experienced lately, and for the pain your husband and his mistresses have inflicted on you...

Hang in there, y'all. Everything that must be, will be. :)

You were clear with her from the outset of your relationship that you were poly-oriented and that you wanted a polyamorous relationship. She said she would agree with that, but her actions since then have not agreed with her words. Any time a person's word disagree with their actions, trust...

Wow, you can do that, AT? Cool! ;)