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Poly in the News Post on Poly and Christianity (10/16/2019) Adding a link to this thread, for any who may be researching the subject - Alan M posted the following article on his Polyamory in the News Blog: Poly & Christian -- a huge and diverse field...

Hi SquarePeg - and welcome to the Forum! My experience in poly also began in a V with my wife as the hinge - following her request that we open our marriage so that she could explore her resurgent feelings for an old college boyfriend in an ethical manner (the full story can be found at the...

Hi Phil - and welcome to the Forum! We have lots of experienced poly folks here who are generally helpful and friendly, so please do not hesitate to post any thoughts and questions that you may have. While the idea of a couple opening up and adding a third who will date both the husband and...

Magdlyn wrote: I think Magdlyn's statement is dead on. After a lot of reading and study over the last few years, I have come to the personal conclusion that there are very few, if any, who are truly hard wired for mono - as evidenced by the prevalence of infidelity in our society. And for...

Interesting quiz - and reasonably accurate at the top. I self identify as something like "demythologized Christian/Platonic/nondualistic Gnostic" - so the top results do intersect with my personal belief system in a number of ways. Certainly much (but not all) of New Thought which I studied...

Dangermouse - you mentioned that you had done quite a bit of research also, but here is my list of top poly web sites that you may find useful if you continue to research the subject - although it sounds like you've done a fair amount of research already...

Hi Dangermouse - and welcome to the Forum! You have initiated quite an interesting discussion with your situation - and received a lot of excellent feedback from some of our experienced contributors. So I figured I might as well jump in and add a couple of thoughts as well - which have been...

Personal Growth Through Consensual NonMonogamies Considering boundaries, facing shadows, and embracing spirit. by Elisabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CSE (Author of The Polyamorists Next Door) Posted Aug 04, 2019, Psychology Today Website. This article is by a respected author in a respected periodical...

Polyamory Works for Them Having multiple partners can mean more pleasure, but it’s not always easy. Photographs by Yael Malka, Text by Alice Hines, Produced by Eve Lyons https://www.nytimes.com/2019/08/03/style/polyamory-nonmonogamy-relationships.html Significant 2300 word article on CNM and...

Hi Jon - and welcome to the Forum! First, the sexual thoughts and fantasies that you and your wife are sharing are completely normal. I think it's a fair statement that almost everyone has thoughts of others on occasion while making love to their spouse. And many mono couples who have no...

Vinsanity wrote: Yep - almost everyone - say by the age of 40 at the latest - has had the experience of feeling romantic love or, at least romantic attraction, for more than one person at the same time. It certainly would seem to be the natural human condition. (Ryan's Sex at Dawn is an...

Duplicate post - my apologies.

Excellent! There's a saying that the Three Rules of Poly are: "Communicate, communicate, communicate". :) My wife and I had many long late night talks as we discussed transitioning to poly - and they were absolutely essential. Glad to hear that you are going as slow as you need to - it...

Kevin wrote: Agreed! - and it seems to be the general consensus that is the best book to read as an introduction to poly. The author describes the larger universe of consensual non-monogamy, and then places poly within that sphere, as well as discussing the basics of the ethical poly...

Oh - and I forgot to ask. Does she want to transition to poly so that can be open to new relationships? Or does she have someone specific in mind? - my wife did although she would not act on it without my consent, as we have always shared a certain ethical bond. Or - is she already in...

Hi Ryan - and welcome to the Forum! You've come to the right place - we have lots of experienced folks who are generally helpful and friendly, so please do feel free to post and questions and comments that you may have. My wife also dropped the poly bomb on me one fateful evening - so I can...

Hi mastrickman1 and peicouple - and welcome to the Forum! We have lots of experienced poly folks here who are generally helpful and friendly, so please do not hesitate to share any thoughts or questions that you may have. You may also find this forum helpful - they have a very similar format...

My long distance girl friend, BouncingBetty (on this forum), is not currently posting here as she tends to spend her available online time participating in local poly forums, but she texted me this yesterday (regarding the two boyfriends that she lives with). :) When your boyfriend is getting...

This blog post is a couple of years old but found it when surfing around today - fun read. The Switcheroo: When Openers Become Benchwarmers https://poly.land/2016/12/20/the-switcheroo-when-enthustiastic-openers-become-benchwarmers/