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I am in a relationship like this. HE is my primary, we openly discussed it and I said that is what I want his role in my life to be. I have no other relationships, actually this is my first poly relationship. However I am HIS secondary, though we have never actually voiced that in those exact...

Are you maybe a little worried that your gf will form an emotional attachment with a new partner and that maybe you worry she may end up loving the new partner more? Its a common concern, one I have myself even though my partner is not actively seeking a new partner yet. I have no idea how I...

I hope this comment does not offend but to me it appears that the possible issue is the emotional attachment you have to your other partner. Have I got the jist right? He swings, so that suggests to me he does not want too much emotional attachment, and I don't mean that in a negative way, so...

I can really understand why you are feeling like you are. I agree that they could have told you, and in my view should have done, which is what you are saying right? Ok so technically none of your relationship rules were broken as such, but as you say if it is generally discussed before hand I...

Agree with you. I knew before we actually got anywhere near the point of meeting each other. I don't hold it against my partner that he waited a (very) short time to tell me he is poly. I believe he was just being cautious telling me, let's face it how many people have you approached who had...

Yeah I agree earlier is better. All I can go by is my situation. I was told within a day or so, just not right at the very first moment. Personally myself I would tell someone almost right away, if they then run a mile I would know early on that they weren't right for me anyway.

I can empathise with you a lot. I am disabled, arthritis, severe diabeties with complications, fibromyalgia and more. I am also very overweight although lost 3 stones in past year and going for bariatric surgery. I felt hideous in my own body for a long time and it really affected my libido...

The first thing that comes to my mind is you have to both agree this is something you want. So I think you need to spend some time by yourself thinking is this the lifestyle for you, how are you going to feel when he has a new partner? Then can you see yourself with another partner? What if...

My current partner, my first poly one, didn't actually tell me straight off that they are poly. We chatted for a short while first. I was then given the time and space to go off and think it all through, there was no pressure at all on me. I gave it much serious thought, and as I felt an...

I realise I am very new to poly relationships but read your post and wanted to reply. Firstly you both have to decide if you want to stay together. Do not let anyone else influence tgis decision. From what i have read it seems to me you are not alone in an acfair starging talks about poly...

I came home to wicca 14 months ago, and entered my first poly relationship since february this year. It does seem to me that poly and paganism go together a lot. I think it is something to do with our belief system, that we tend to be open minded people who think for ourselves and welcome all...

Hi, being new here I thought i would say hello too. I have not yet been in a situation where I feel greedy havibg two partners. I have been in my first poly relationship since february so not long. However I have to process feelings of greed and selfishness on my part, wanting time and...

Hi Melissa. I am new here too so thought I would say hello. It sounds like things are going really well for the four of you.

I have a 13 year old, he sort of knows i an pily and accepts that. I just worried. Good advice to wait before posting. Neither nyself or partner are looking for another partner at the moment, but yes it is something that will have to be approached at some time I'm sure. The thing I prefer...

I just suddenly had a bit of a panick that someone I know may come across my profile here. Only my current partner knows i am poly. But now I am thinking maybe I was worrying too much aboit what others would think if they found out.

So, I had a few moments of panic about being a member here. But decided it's my life and if other people i know find out and don't like it that is their problem. I am 40 years old. Have 2 sons but only 1 lives with me. I am currently divorcing my wife prior to that my last marriage to a man...

I just thought I would say hello to you, as I am new here too. I just clicked with the poly lifestyle since meeting someone recently. But there is still so much ignorance around about it.

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