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I have no clue why my Gay friends find it offensive. Honestly, I feel it is out of respect for what they are comfortable with. Perhaps instead of making generalizations for my being PC with my friends I shouldn't speak for a community I am not a member of. As for me the reason I am senstive...

Why do I find the word queer offensive. I know it is because my gay friends find it offensive. I have no clue why. They do, and since that is their culture I respect what they say. I gucess I try and respect there wishes and perhaps I am obvious to what the whole gay community finds...

Your study is not a random sample and you need to be clear about that. By limiting your age range, you are showing bias. I personally would find your word of queer women to be offensive. I think most people consider themselves lesbians.

I understand I have been with my husband a long time. This is my second poly relationship. I fell for a friend and he is mono. I know I am the rebound for him and he can't accept poly. However, he has made his peace being with me. We've decided to enjoy our time together, and make it about...

Sounds great Mo! Here's to good times, your "tone" sounds great! Thrilled your working things through. L

We watch PP. I knew there was an issue between Pete and Violet vs. Charlotte and Cooper. We got to the point where Pete and Charlotte talked. Can't wait to see the end now! I can totally see Cooper and Violet being metamor's.

I'm in a similar position. I know I am my BF A's rebound relationship after his marriage. He is mono. We were friends and fell in love. He knew that I wouldn't be leaving my husband. However, wanted to continue the relationship. A few weeks ago, after I talked to him about some long-term issues...

It has been brought to my attention that I have failed to introduce myself. I am the hinge to my husband and my boyfriend. My husband is mono and open to things. My boyfriend and I were friends and fell in love. My husband was aware I was poly, as I had a previous relationship with S. That...

After reading for awhile Kat's blogs and MG's posts. I find it heartbreaking. I cannot image knowing that someone else is my husband's "soulmate" It has always seemed to me that Kat is the one who is being expected to do the changing and there is a basic lack or respect for her. Is Kat always...

Wow! That makes so much sense for my situation. My hubs is my best friend. It makes me realize, I have shared to much with him. No wonder he expressing some issues. Thanks, for the epihany!

P2 What I meant is acknowledge your feelings. Do not push them aside and say it's okay. You got an email from C last week, your words were something to the line of she gets rant, but I am crazy when I write. You need to acknowledge those feelings and state them. To C, to hubs and make sure...

Why do you take all the fault? It seems when there are 3 people in a relationship, there is fault enough for all. I certainly have messed up with both my guys. They both have messed up with me. It sucks sometimes and relationships are hard, between two. Adding other's is not always going to...

Panic attacks Mo, Always here on the panic attack front. I am very very lucky to have a pscyhologist who understands me. She is also awesome at helping someone through the most horrible situation imaginable. Critical is to give an intial alert, so that Karma is aware there is potential...

Sometimes when Hubs and I are fighting, we text each other. That way we have to stop and think what we are saying. We do it from other rooms, and it makes things more concise. Being the hinge, I know each of my men have fears. I know hubs more then BF. I think being able to be honest with...

L Seems like it is pretty drastic, would you not give T the chance to work through his issues without making such an offer. I know he is your worried about hurting him. Seems like he is trying to grow, why not wait and see what he comes up with. L

Hugs, MBG. Remember you just need to breathe each minute. Reach out to someone else for comfort. I can't always get what I need from BF and hubs. I am going through lots of change with hubs right now, as well. It is hard, and I know we will come out the other side.

Hugs! Mo, panic attacks are so hard! I have been experiencing them for years. I have a great deal of empathy for you. It is so frightening to be afraid and truly unable to ground yourself. I am sorry your not feeling supported.

Wow! That is awesome. That might solve my ring problem. I technically have 3 of them and I wear none of them. They itch my finger. That is such a huge step! I am so happy for you.

Someone once gave the advice of a check in system, where they asked their partner who was engaged in a hot nre, a check in system. It went something like this, Polly says to husband, what's the situation, The situation is I am in love with you, I will never leave you, I am in love with C and...

Polly, where is your crazy in this? Only you know. It seems like you want this relationship to work, the way you want it to work. When you don't feel 100% included you feel left out. You are 1 of 3, they don't seem to want the same relationship you do. Have you all discussed your vision for...