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I'd be...cautious, about Craigslist. My ex used to browse the personals ads for entertainment and there was some stuff she found shook my faith in humanity. I will never look at 12th century woodcuts the same again. I know this will be hard for most people here to believe, but I'm actually...

First, a little backstory. I tend to be a bit of a scrounger with almost everything, a modern hunter-gatherer if you will. I tend to stumble across a wide assortment of everything that usually gets used or passed on to someone else. Food is in that category, a skill developed out of a very low...

Its good for the health of a community to have a few "non-demographic" members.

Talk to the people you're having difficulty with, that's a start. It may be that you are the only people they feel comfortable talking about that part of their lives with. Its very hard to have to hide parts of your life, especially parts as important as who you share it with, from other people...

If you're more comfortable talking with someone in private, we have a PM system you are free to utilize that has a much shorter memory than the forum. I'd be happy to talk and I cant speak for anyone else but I'm sure there are others who would be as well.

Hopefully it was resolved satisfactorily.

Relating my own experience with FetLife. I'm (relatively) vanilla.

FetLife was kinda scary, they seemed very unfriendly to vanilla people.

Yup. They cray cray. I heart you.

This, so much. This is so hard!

It sounds insane, but it works. Sprinkle about a teaspoon of cinnamon in each shoe before a date and your feet won't smell when you take them off. (This may discolor socks, so dark socks are advised.) Also, get your hair wet (or do this after washing your hair pre-date) and shake a plastic...

I dont know that I could actually articulate why, I just did XD By most people's standards, it wasn't that "kinky." I'm used to hanging out with people who have a leather mask and restraints in the glove compartment, just in case.

Declare a holmgang and pass out the axes? Husband doesn't seem very agreeable to the whole poly deal. His comment reads, to me, as "I know this will make you happy but I want to punish him more than I want to make you happy." Is that a direct Husband quote? Being hurt is fine but it hardly...

Generally speaking, coming across as derpy when asking someone if they like you back is endearing as fuck. As for the rest of it, no clue. My best dating advice is to use cinnamon.

But srsly, you cannot please all people all the time. I'm not sure if you're dealing with people who have unsettlingly poor communication skills, or if they're just razzing you and not aware that they're pushing it too far. I would worry less about what they'll say about your relationship, and...

This. So much this. Its largely why I wont get into conversations about race with anybody. People are so diverse about their preferences with labeling and many automatically take anything that isn't their preferred set of adjectives as a direct insult. You also have to look at the spirit of...

I've always been around the BDSM-D/s crowd for a while by virtue of having a...diverse circle of friends, but it never really seemed like my thing. I have a difficult time with unequal treatment in almost any sense. That said, my most recent ladyfriend asked if she could try being dominant with...

I'd say write it just to make sure you have everything down you want to say, then torch it. Seriously, a letter helps get your head on the right track but other than that it does you no favors. The absolute best thing to do is talk to them about it face to face. Yes, you'll probably look like a...

I took a lot of cues from the LGBT community in dealing with it in terms of friends. I basically just came right out and said that I had made a significant personal discovery, I was poly, and let everything else fall where it did. The vast majority of my friends were alright with it, some of...

Mmm... I take your point, but even in that context, unless you're asking someone else to accept your point of view, you have no obligation to express why you have that point of view, or why someone else should share it. That goes if the audience is us or offspring.