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wonderfully put YouAreHere. thanks:) and best of luck!

I find this very interesting because I am currently questioning faith/religion....but at a time when im considering NOT being poly. But I'm not turning back to Jesus either. I was raised my strict fundamentalist Christians (still are, my dad at least) and my adulthood didn't believe most of it...

Thanks for this :) That's how its gone with Nudge too. hes away for 9 days right now, I miss him like crazy....but last year, Id have been glued to the phone,. Jumped every time it dings to see if it was him, mope if he went 24 hrs without a message lol.....but this year, Im thrilled when I...

resurrecting this from a couple months ago cause its relevant for me right now. With my relationship dilemmas a lot of people tell me I am so into Nudge because hes "new and shiny". We've been together over a year, see each other every day at work, two to three times a week at night, spend time...

Ive only been with one female, but I totally get what youre saying. I set up an OKC profile looking for bi women for a bit and only got hits from women looking for a threesome with their man. thanks, but I like the male bits I get, was just looking for some lady action.

I suppose it serves to find out if we want to be together. I offered to work on the marriage though not feeling attracted to him, he asked for time to work on himself first. its confusing...I suppose I've been confused since this all started over a year ago. My friends think I should probably...

SO here is where things stand if anyone wants to way in with advice/support. Hubs and I are on a month long break, no sex, kissing, generally intimacy. He seems to waffle between THis will work!! and beign terrified it wont. ive felt relief....not having sex with him, not worrying about our...

Thanks for sharing Jane!! I did discuss it with Nudge and we agree for just right now, to be re-evaluated later, he would continue to look for and pursue new interactions with people but keep it non romantic/sexual for the time being. So even if he wants to meet new women, they would have to...

Im gonna go cynical on you here cause of my current situation, so please know im not saying it CANT work...just that you sound similar to me when I started. Before you ask....take a good look at your relationship and make sure you are truly HAPPY with him. not that you are running from or...

wow....so I want to give you advice but am not sure where to start. I wondering if the therapist wanted poly people to discuss compersion with you...the idea that you can be happy someone you love is in love, it in turn brings you joy. But I feel like this would be extremely hard for you...

Thanks for responding Dag! Hubs and I got in a habit of getting high and watching movies....and that was about it. Nudge has no kids, and lots more money. So time with Nudge is concerts and dinners out etc. and time with hubs is chillin at home after the kids are in bed. We rarely go out...

Yeah, pretty much :) nice summer thanks. Though im not 100% I want to drop romance with spouse, or that I want mono with BF. On the bit about not dating other people, the reason I wont ask him is he is seeing no one besides me, so its not fair to be working on relationship with my spouse and...

I've thought of you Dag cause I know you have co-primaries. Im guessing the difference for you is the guys totally know and are on board with being co-primaries/husbands however you want to call it :) I don't think my spouse has really thought about, until now, how I now have co-primaries...

I could work that, he'd be pretty upset about it. While Im ok if he doesn't want romance with me and want to be his friends, he seems to be of the mind he doesn't want my friendship if we don't have romance

All of your answers were so incredibly helpful and supportive I want to quote and reply to each one! I am so very glad to have people on this board. I want to try to hit some of the questions I can without boring you all. I agree with everyone I need to figure out what I want with or without...

I thought it was how my brains wired too...but now im thinking, maybe only sexually. Its the multiples loves tripping me up.

reading through.... I have to say you might want to move on. Ive supported someone in this manner for 11 years and it only gets hard and you only get more resentful. We have kids to be watched, so I give him leeway. but it doesn't make it that much easier.

Hey all, haven't written a lot lately. A lot has happened in the last year. I am currently having issues with my own spouse (not about being poly) while after a yaer and a half, still very much in love with my boyfriend. Ive tried having both as primaries...and its hard, maybe too hard...

That sounds rough, I hope things are better now and he came home and reassured you. It sounds like he might not be respecting your relationship/needs like you would like him to and perhaps you need better boundries. The dinner thing would bother me too, text/call if you'll be late. My spouse...

for me, two with my current set up. My husband and bf are pretty equal and I spend so much time with them I couldn't sustain anymore. Perhaps a FWB would be nice, but it would have to be someone who didn't mind it would be very occasional and casual. Maybe three if I weren't so deeply...