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I think in order for you to become comfortable with your boyfriend fucking and loving others, you need to address the sentiment of possessiveness behind this statement. If you are already seeing the bond created through sex as something exclusively yours to have, you will struggle. For many...

Have you ever enjoyed sex? With someone other than him? Because, it's hard for me to imagine enjoying sex with someone who finds any part of my body unappealing, especially when it's a kind of key component in my sexual gratification and interaction.

I don't know you, and I don't know him, so take what I'm about to say with a pinch of salt, and know that I do not mean this unkindly: it sounds like he is gay, and wanting a wife to disguise this fact. If he's not into you sexually, and you and he are not emotionally compatible/fulfilling to...

Oh, this would be great! The number of times I've spoken to people that seemed interesting until they told me all about their DADT, and I've gone…eeee…I'm not sure I'm down with that because it's just too easy to lie about it. This would be a massive help in sorting out the cheaters from the...

I think it all boils down to one thing: is your fiancée asexual, or just not desiring sex with you? If it's the former, then I can see how having an open relationship - although not necessarily a poly one - might be helpful. If it's the latter, (and of course, it might be hard for her to know...

In your shoes I would be requesting some space from him to think things through. I'd be asking him to move out. He's lied, he's cheated, and now he's not even giving you time and space to process any of that before asking you to move on and let him basically have a second wife in your home. I...

Hi, and welcome. :) Being poly and LGBT makes you a minority within a minority, so that's kind of to be expected to some extent. However, I do think that this forum is rather under-represented by men in general, regardless of sexuality. There are a few gay and bisexual guys who post fairly...

So she's already cheating on her boyfriend by having sex with your partner, he's already uncomfortable with her sexuality, you and he already don't see eye to eye even when things are just platonic between you and her, this has been going on for a while but you still don't know how she feels...

Yeah, not so sure I want even *more* people in the world confusing polygamy and polyamory. It still amazes me that, of all the myriad possible relationship configurations that can naturally occur within a non-monogamous framework, the only one that people want to put on TV screens is the one...

I second the wine and a card idea, if you get anything at all. Personally I've only ever done gifts for other people's relationships for major milestones (like 25 years together, or something). It feels to me like making big gestures makes the anniversary a public event, when it's more of a...

It could be, as others have said, that your wife is not interested in making agreements - that for whatever reason (shame? guilt? fear?) she cannot reconcile her desires for multiple relationships with her own ethics, and would prefer to stay in a cycle of suppression followed by 'lapses'...

On the off chance that this isn't kingofhearts/fetgirl back again... Does your partner even want to date other women? Have you spoken to him? Why not let him find his own partner(s)? I'm really not sure why you need to be involved at all. If you're worried that anyone he meets will be put off...

I feel for you. It sounds like you are really unhappy. :( I'll start by saying that I actually get what you are saying. I feel the same about my partner Nina. I really want kids with her some day (soon, actually), and have always said at the beginning of our transition to an open relationship...

I think this is the approach I would take as well. I get that you can't be direct with her about your feelings, but this (finishing her stories for her) will make it pretty clear that not only have the stories been done to death, but that the focus should be on the here and now - the lovely...

I don't know what the laws where you are say, but where I'm from videoing someone without their permission, or distributing it to third parties without their permission, is flat out illegal. If you and your boyfriend get off on treating people like sex toys then that's all well and good, but you...

I actually don't see much wrong with that article. It matches my experience with the poly community quite accurately. Whether you want to attribute it to homophobia or simply some kind of natural sorting effect is another thing, however. Lesbians absolutely DO get hit on by men who assume they...

I would avoid people I am (or who my partner is) connected to professionally. There are many other people out there to date.

Defraud who? Genuine question. We don't file joint taxes here, we don't have private healthcare systems to scam, and even if we did, you'd have to, you know, intentionally defraud someone in order to benefit by signing up to something when you're not supposed to. I don't understand why changing...

Actually, changing your name in the UK is no big deal. I know in the US that it's a nightmare, but here, as long as you are over 18, you can change your name to DonaldTrumpIsAGiantAssHoover VoteBernie no problem. Or, you know, Jane MyNonLegalHusbandsSurname. :D

As I understand it, you are free to do your own ceremony or hand-fasting in the UK, and as long as you don't make it official, then it's fine. However, getting any kind of legal protection for your other partner in the event of your death can be pretty complicated. Even if you make your...