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I'm going to bump this thread. This quote (on a reread) triggered it. :) I mentioned in my "Life Stories" post that my wife and I had an amazing talk about one of the ladies I'm head-over-heels for. A sub-topic in this discussion was "How much we're comfortable sharing." And I don't mean...

Not I, said the blind man. Poly folk don't have a magical ability to vanquish jealousy. It just happens that (often, but not always) we manage to deal with it without destroying relationships. I'd be wary of someone who doesn't feel a twinge now and then when someone they love isn't spending...

Trust (I have the amazingly wonderful experience of always tripping in very safe, amazing spaces...)

Wow! It sounds like you had a great time, Redpepper. It also seems like you've positively pushed a personal and relational boundary. Excellent. Glad your experience was so exciting. :) Thanks for sharing.

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Oh, I love that, the "Lightbulb Moment"! Yes, that was what I meant. :) The person who expressed this concern wasn't calling me out, it was a real concern. She wanted to make sure that I was explaining and conveying what I meant because it could be read different ways. It wasn't someone being...

Someone sent me a message to express concern over the phrasing I used here. What I was trying to convey wasn't a definition of polyamory. I don't mean to define what poly is to others. I think what I meant and was feeling most when I wrote that line wasn't more about polyamory as a concept but...

This one. I posted just a few minutes ago about attractiveness in my eyes being tied to personalities and not looks. I sort of see gender in that as well. I identify as straight but I don't control who I love. I could potentially love another man, and could potentially have sex with someone I...

I'm not sure I have an ideal. I mean, sure, I can pinpoint things I like. But I find the things I dislike to be extremely valuable too. I've felt terrible at times, afraid to speak my mind, afraid of hurting others, afraid to be hurt. Yet these are almost always countered by times when I feel...

Glad to see you guys are communicating. :) I feel that a lot of the relations between myself and others, and my wife's relations with others, have helped us build our own relationship. I very much empathize there, and am excited to see it. :) I do want to add a tidbit from my perspective as a...

I'm an activist and I've found that's always true! I've learned that it's really hard to convince people but it's really easy to plant seeds and let them convince themselves. Indeed, this is the only effective way to do it. It's really hard to plant those seeds if you come off condescending and...

I learned the term "heteroflexible" yesterday and that describes me pretty much. :P I think maybe I don't like the term biamorous for one reason. When pertaining to sexual interest in both genders, it implies a connection between sex and love. I have that connection personally, sex and intimacy...

I went to a munch last night that involved many people from FetLife. I said BDSM isn't exactly my thing, so I was a little worried I'd be uncomfortable. In fact, I almost have the opposite impression of what you're afraid of. There was almost NO discussion of BDSM or sex. I actually find it a...

Yep. Fern Gully. :)

Welcome. :)

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Okay, I'm not sure where I am going to take this, so please consider every post of mine on this forum to be a "work in progress" until I respond later and ammend it. I do hope to ammend it, rather than correct it. My journey, my relationships and the people I'm in love with aren't correctable...

Polyamory, at least in terms of sex, is part of my sexual orientation. I don't know if that's because I own and revel in the term/concept, or if others feel that way. So if you're poly and are not sure how to approach it, I'd ask you a related question. Would your decision be any more or less...

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