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So, we weren't out as poly to my family. Thisnis not a problem in our dynamic. Im the only one really who is hurt by not being out. I never particularly tried to hide it (I've never been a huge PDA in front of family person), and B was always invited to family dinners once he started to live...

So, I have realized something about myself. While I am comfortable having sexual relationships with other women, I almost knee-jerk emotionally pull away slightly any time I can get closer. My husbands are supportive but ultimately this is my issue to fix and I want to be able to experience...

My main question(s) is/are; -What has polya taught you? -What is it currently teaching you? -What do you think it will teach you? What has polya taught you? It's taught me to analyze where/why my jealousy is coming from and how to deal with it, that I am not abnormal for being able and...

This is less poly related and more...I'm just not sure where else to go and ask this. I have having idiopathic nipple discharge; it started last year and was caused by my IUD at the time, had that removed, then it resolved; I had medical testing to disprove cancer and a pituitary tumor and was...

I saw in a different discussion group on facebook the idea that if someone cheat, it can be a sign that they are not inherently mono. It is a seemingly common opinion in at least this facebook group. I wanted to see what people thought of this idea, and how different opinions lined up with...

My polycule (MFM V) is on vacation and for dinner last night we had milkshakes; the waitress say "Your milkshake did bring all the boys to the yard!" (Not in a mean way but in genuinely a fun loving and accepting way.) She then looked as if she would get into trouble; I literally started...

Having/being a hinge in a V seems to be the most common relationship set up, but it seems there is also some variation and confusion on what people view as the hinges role with meta interaction. Does it vary based on poly style? Based on meta relationship? I'm a bit torn; the hinge is...

BACKSTORY sorry it's long! B was the hinge in a V between me and J. For various reasons, I did not trust J. When he asked my opinion, I was honest and told him that while I have not talked to her enough myself to have a very informed opinion; from all he has told me I did not trust her. I'm...

With so many different variations of how people practice poly, there are going to be variations in terms of how people practice sexual health 'rules' or issues along the lines of fluid bonding. In this discussion, I would really like to talk about the different ways people do things, why, and...

I think a lot of people have various insecurities that are brought to the surface through polyamourous relationships; just due to the fact is challenges us to grow in ways not expected in monogamy. I was wondering what other people were/are insecure about? How they are dealing/delt with, those...

I had an epiphany so I guess I'm hunting for validation and some input Honestly this emotional release makes me want to cry but I'm at work So I realized some of my fears/insecurities came from my childhood of not being equal to my brother, not being appreciated by parents,, past abusive...

Hierarchical polyamory, when I first discovered I was poly, seemed to be much more accepted than now only like...2 years later. I used to really hate the idea of it; but I now don't I just look at it differently and see that there are different types to me imo. Type A- The initial couple is...

I know that good and bad can come from a meta relationship! I would like to talk about how we all keep our meta relationships; good and bad, in a functional space? I know that it can be really good for a relationship to spend quality time with any friend one on one. For a meta you like, what...

Hey all! So, this is partially about the idea of love languages and partially about what you guys do. So, Ive realized my love language (LL) is different for different partners. For B, words of affirmation is my primary and [food mainly hugely] food gifts. For Z, acts of service and very...

This may be controversial; so I just want a base reminder to try to be chill and phrase things with empathy in mind. I believe it poly is an aspect of sexuality. You can have bi/pan people who are more attracted to one gender than another; a bi person is no less bi is they're only 25%...

B and I are having a handfasting ceremony this summer! Just him, Me and Z. I spent 13 hours braiding and weaving the handfasting rope and planning the colors. We know vaguely the whole ceremony...since it's just us 3 it's really not super structured (so if anyone has any experience with doing...

Okay, I want to preface with this will be long post, and you will want to read it all. Also, I'm not sure if I'm asking for advice (I'd appreciate it no matter what), or just venting. Also, secondary preface, my fiance B does know that I have insecurities around his BFF but that, until now, I...

This is more a "I still feel new and unsure" type question. I've come to realize that 1) as time goes on my boyfriend appears to put less...into the relationship. Before things got more serious he'd initiate conversations, flirting, stuff like that. Now it's always me. He'll read messages and...

So this is more advice than GD, if it's in the wrong place let me know So in the GD I talked about the hypothetical coming out. I having been trying with various people to tell them about an "article" I read to feel them out. Mostly positive results. Then I got to my mom. She honestly...

Is coming out worth it? If it is, how do you do it? Is there a method to the madness? Is it like with not being straight where some people fall on the out to list, and others fall on the in list?