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I'm sorry you're in pain. She doesn't live alone she lives with you. You had been talking about marriage before she talked about it with him. My husband Z was ready for my husband (at the time just BF) B to move in before I was! I had to tell him to slow down partner; I live here and I am not...

I saw in a different discussion group on facebook the idea that if someone cheat, it can be a sign that they are not inherently mono. It is a seemingly common opinion in at least this facebook group. I wanted to see what people thought of this idea, and how different opinions lined up with...

When we all began to cohabitate certain things became more difficult and certain things became easier. Spending more equal time with each was so much easier. One of the biggest things it affected with B was how often he initiated sex. We're working on it. I had had years to get used to and...

So, I've definitely been mulling this thread over and making sure I pay a lot of attention to my Vs dynamics with this. I'm going to split it up with sex and sleep for my brain. SLEEP Sleeping arrangements day to day: I try to sleep with both. B has a horrid schedule so I can only do it on...

For me when I take the LL test focusing on my relationship with Z: 12 Acts of Service 7 Words of Affirmation 6 Quality Time 5 Physical Touch 0 Receiving Gifts When focusing on my relationship with B: 8 Acts of Service 7 Physical Touch 6 Quality Time 6 Words of Affirmation 3 Receiving Gifts...

Life has a way of having the literal worst timing. But, I know as someone who feels things loud and deep myself, what I do in times like this, is use the time TO sort my feelings and really spend my upset energies on being productive with dealing with them. Like how if you're mad you work out...

This is a lot to unpack and I was going to go point by point, but in the end I think that you and Henry may not end up working out. There is a lot more wrong here than B (B hasn't done anything wrong.) I think you guys should get therapy if you want to salvage things

Sandra, I feel like you tend to feel things very deeply and strongly, and I know in times like this that can be a detriment. There is nothing wrong with feeling things strongly, but you will want to find ways to manage yourself when negative emotions flare up. Life goes on, even when we're...

You're not going to find a lot of people here who agree with a veto; and they do tend to just cause resentment. I'd say yes, you CAN use a veto, but SHOULD you? Detach from doing anything with her. You don't have to know anything about her or talk with her etc at all.

I second Meera and Gala. Your gut is saying RUN and this is a situation where listening may be the best idea. If you decide divorce or separation is the best option, do research over the different ways you could get out. Could you keep the house with the kids and he move out? Good luck and...

That's a whole lot of stress that's happened. Swinging sounds like a more fitting option for you guys to look at from the sounds of it. Either way, go slow.

A perfect thing for all of us to remember in our lives! We need to put in the time and work to SHOW commitment and love, instead of just have exclusivity do the heavy lifting.

Can you share that plug-in if you have it? That sounds extremely helpful! Thank you for telling us about it.

But if you open it now and it stays open...she could still be pregnant when you have a FWB or even a girlfriend. Her fears would still be the same; how would you feel if you loved someone, and she said "now that I'm pregnant, break up because of X fear"??? B is coming over tomorrow and Fri to...

I don't believe you did it on purpose, as I said. But that it's outcome was not a good one. From what I've seen of your posts you are a good person and not of ill character. We all make mistakes in speech and joke timing etc. Every persons opinion depends on a filter of how we interpret...

tbh now would be a good time to just say sorry for being accidentally very hurtful and tactless. When making a joke is harmful, it's not a joke. I read the PDF, and it provides no explanation or excuse. No atmosphere for this humor was ever present. Making fun of the death of someone you do not...

Hugs for you

I feel like this says a lot really. Sometimes, to try to fix issues, people want to "add" more people. That just makes the issues worse. It sounds like opening up your relationship would have been doing that tbh. Adding more to fix something. Do some teamwork and figure out what you both want...

But WHAT IF IT ENDS BADLY? Best laid plans do go astray. She doesn't sound ready either tbh. I think she needs to do way more research and soul searching too. It sounds like she's being a bit controlling about the dating website. Don't waffle. Read Gala's and SlowPoly's post again and again...

"My child knows something is up because there in an unfamiliar car in the drive. I tell him it's a friend, but my husband and this girl are holed up at the other end of the house with the door shut. My kid is getting upset, I'm trying to contact husband to ask him to cut the date short. I'm not...