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Thanks! Comments are definitely welcome. Thanks for the uninvited feedback comment. I try to keep it in mind when posting on here :)

Figured I'd start a blog on here! The name is really just because I'm still learning a lot about myself while realizing how little I have control over. Plus I'm originally from a beach town and really miss the ocean. Anyway.... Working a lot on doing things by myself/for myself lately. I...

I do go to music festivals, but not any that are strictly EDM. But no I didn't hear about poly first in those circles. I actually met a woman I worked with in 2017 who's husband had a girlfriend and they all lived together. Then a couple years ago when I was in Thailand I met a solo poly woman...

I wouldn't use simple math to describe any part of poly relationships except house chores ...

Yes. you bring up later that maybe it's a good thing that P doesn't react the same way Joe and I do. I totally agree. Hard to see when I'm feeling anxious because I just want someone to show that they care... or rather that I'm not crazy in worrying about this shit. But one of the reasons I love...

Was trying not to be so vulgar haha

P told his family about me and our relationship. He's also talked a lot more about commitment lately. It felt like a big step. If me and P's relationship has the potential to continue in the future (which would be awesome!), I feel that I have a responsibility to talk with Joe about this...

Thanks Kevin. I never know how much to say and when to just leave things as they are. But if I bring sh*t like this up with both of them and neither of them are willing to negotiate, then that would answer a lot of my questions right there? P is pretty hard to bother, but I know this has to...

Meant to reply to this. That's totally fine. I am down to do that, and have said as much to them. I just thought it was confusing of Joe to express wanting this, acknowledge that P wants the same, and then expect that I wouldn't spend the night at P's house occasionally.

he fully embraces that this is something I want, but doesn't see himself having another partner. Neither of them do. I have talked to both of them at length about what that would look like though; like who is off limits (my family and close as well as professional friends) and what I would...

retrospective warning: I drank a lot of coffee before making this thread, which explains all the parentheses 🤪

Hey gang :) I am getting to a point in my life (and my newer relationship with P) where I've started investing and planning for the future (i.e. possibly having kids, building a community, etc). I was wondering if there were any polycules (hope that's not a stupid word to use) that have planned...

oop I'll try that! thanks!

My boyfriend (P) spent the past week away with his family. He had no service, so while I was in town dealing with our roommates wanting to know the details of our relationship (we live with my husband and his two friends--see last blog post), he was enjoying himself and I guess also having a...

Thanks for the advice! always nice hearing input from someone in a similar situation. If I had it my way, we would be out to everyone important already. My family and I are very close and I'm no longer worried about them judging. At this point I have suspicions that nearly everyone in all of...

Realizing just by making this thread that being in some pseudo "out"/in the closet state is weird. I sometimes can't discern if people's (in this case my roommates) judgements comes from the fact that I am poly or that I'm hiding it (in the sense of not talking about it with them). Like if I was...

All 5 of us have lived together before (Me, husband, boyfriend, Larry, Cris); at the time me and boyfriend were just friends. We all lived apart for a year because we were working in different places for a bit. Basically went ahead with the plan of moving back in together even though feelings...

at this point really everyone knows, I.e. Has seen boyfriend and I cuddling or holding hands but I think both Cris and Larry have a really hard time understanding and still think I’m some conniving succubus

Larry knew. Husband talked with him about it. I think he was just trying to get under my skin. Cris didn’t know but I was never actively hiding it, they’re just not my friends so I didn’t feel like explaining myself to them

I live with my husband, my boyfriend and two of my husbands childhood friends (we'll call them Cris and Larry). Sounds like the beginning of a really bad joke, because it is! Larry told my husband yesterday that he saw me and boyfriend naked on the couch together (I remember the incident, it was...