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Yeah, I'd say all of that to him, including not wanting to put pressure on him. Maybe if he understood why, to the level you described here, he may change his mind. Or maybe not, but then you'd know that too. I like to be more entangled with my partners, but as nycindie pointed out, that's not...

I don't have advice for you, but I totally get where you're coming from. I couldn't have someone incredibly important in my life not meet the other important people in my life. I definitely requested to meet Taylor early on (because I knew we'd run into each other eventually, not a rule but a...

I'm with Dagferi on this one. Especially considering how you're in so much pain around this (understandably!). My guess is that she really doesn't want to be poly. They opened up because he wanted to, and now she's left feeling insecure and resentful. And he is the one not putting you on an...

I agree with nycindie. Put it to you this way: how would your wife feel if she knew you talked to this woman about her orgasms? That might be a good way to determine if your level of involvement is too much right now... If you can't afford the books yet or are waiting on them to arrive, then...

I think it depends on the person. I know some people who are very shy about talking about sex. I know others who don't mind sharing orgasm details with practically strangers, because they're just so open. For myself, I'm pretty open about my sex life with my friends, who are both women and men...

Have you talked to her? Not to open the relationship, but to roll the idea around in your mouths? Explore? Discuss? Roger and I talked for probably over a year before we opened and before I even considered dating Jack.

I'll add that Roger (see my signature below) took four years after we opened up our relationship before he decided he wanted to date Taylor. It wasn't that he was being rejected - he just wasn't interested in anyone. Jack and I were friends for years before we started as friends with benefits...

One of my friends responded fairly negatively after I disclosed to her that I'm poly. It bothered me for a few hours, until she texted me, letting me know that she was really sorry. She explained that she didn't know what to say, said some insensitive things, and was glad that I told her. She...

I hope it helps to rant. I'm glad you have a space to talk - sounds like you really need it about now! Here's my perspective. I'm wondering what keeping you in this relationship with your boyfriend. I hear how you love him, and you need to decide what's best for YOU, but I'm also hearing how...

I'm sorry you're feeling let down. It does make sense to me, the way you describe it. Have you told your BF? Expressed how you were feeling and identified what you'd like to change? Do you want more quality time? Need more affection? Reassurance? What are your needs? Anything from here...

Glad to hear it! Sounds like a great epiphany. So THIS is the time to work on your relationship before opening up. Adding more people to a relationship with problems ends in chaos. Being poly shines a light on every single flaw you have in your current relationship. I say this from experience...

Welcome Bethicakes! I hear how things have been changing for you so rapidly. I get how you were hiding your feelings about BF for a long while (did the same thing with Jack), but it sounds like everything's so new! You all are likely wrapped up in NRE (New Relationship Energy), which typically...

Happy happy happy birthday!!! :d

Hi Bunny and welcome! It sounds like this might be a time to dive into reading about polyamory, before even considering talking with your partner or looking for other partners. More than Two and Opening Up are two great books to read to get more knowledge about polyamory. I would highly...

Sorry to hear things aren't going well for you, Bunnielight. Hope they get better soon. Doing alright lately. I'm ridiculously busy with work this week, which works out well since Roger is visiting Taylor most of the week. Gives me space to do the work necessary, plus lots of talking with Jack...

Hope things have gotten better for you, Reader.

I do hope the experimental treatments help. I can't even fathom how awful it must feel to not feel like yourself. :(

Thanks so much for posting that letter. I'm trying to figure out how to come out to my family about Jack, and a letter/email might be just the thing to allow me to say what I need to before they respond. I love how you provided answers to a list of questions as well. Definitely something to mull...

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Morethan2, I'm so sorry to hear how things have taken a major turn for the worse. I agree with what other posters have said, and definitely talk with your poly friendly therapist for professional advice. I'm glad that she's in a safe place for the time being - it sounds like she really needs...