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Oh! Haha. I also updated it at one point, since there were repetitions, typos, off-topic convos, and such.

Well, this is certainly a dilemma. I'd say that we've had this situation come up before, and sometimes it works out that a nice V is formed, while other times it goes up in flames, and the potential hinge of the V (i.e., a person like you) ends up losing both their spouse/established partner...

Huh, unfortunately, a regular search of the term only goes back to 2016. But by then, several people were using the term. Edit: I see in an Advanced Search that redpepper used the term in 2009. And LovingRadiance added it to our Glossary in 2010! I know LR got the definitions of terms of the...

https://polyamory.com/threads/polyamorous-vs-swingers.69813/ See this 2014 thread, post #10 here (by Galagirl) for another detailed example of this board's past and current members using the word "polysexual" to mean "having sex (usually casually, as opposed to in a love relationship) with more...

So this current situation, I am getting confused about names, friends, partners, spouses. Do you think you could choose nicknames? Like say: I'm not actually sure if the friend you confided in and your wife's new partner are the same person or not! Sorry for being dim haha So, you and Quinn...

Oh, how did I miss that? I guess I forgot, since it was back in early June. There's been a lot of water under the bridge in the past month. And with Oathkeeper's post yesterday, I got confused. Thanks, Tinwen.

Hi and welcome. :) It sounds like you have had one casual MFM relationship, where there was threeway sex, and friendship, but not true love between you and the guy, or your wife and the other guy. How long did the relationship last? How long ago did it end? It also sounds like you want another...

I'm not sure why Tinwen asked the question, but a platonic crush would be, I think, something like what they call a "bromance." Like, two guys that love each other, but they would say, "no homo," not in an actual romantic or sexual way.

Suddenly spending several days a week with Finch-- how does that work when you've got a husband and young kids? I see you said you go out after they are in bed. Does that mean that Duck, your husband, has suddenly been thrust into being responsible for the kids a lot, since you're going out to...

Oathkeeper, let me see if I've got this right. You were raised very Christian and you have a wife. She was your first and only sex partner, and you were hers. You must be male and she is female. I imagine you two got married pretty young, so say 21, and now you're 31. 2 years ago, your wife...

It's interesting, as a mother of three, myself (they are all grown, and I'm a grandma now), how you managed to do this hotwife dynamic in, as you said, the past few years, and your kids are only 10 and 2! If you've been doing it for 4 years, say, the older one was 6 when you started, and then...

Please go ahead and write it out here! Sometimes getting everything down on the screen helps you organize your thoughts and explore your feelings and start to get some clarity. Then the feedback you get from others is a bonus. The long-time members here have seen it all, the whole poly roller...

Thanks for the further information. It does sound like she's reached the end of her "people-pleaser era" and wants to move on to finding out what pleases her, herself! She has compromised by agreeing to take a break and spend some time in couples counseling, though. However, if she's even...

There was a member here, back in the early days of the forum, named LovingRadiance, who had a husband and a boyfriend, and they all lived together with a bunch of kids of varying ages. (You can search her name to read about her experiences.) LR had had one child by her bf GG, and several by her...

Done.

Hi and welcome, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team

Hi, I just wanted to point out that this is not a dating site. We are a forum designed for discussion of topics related to polyamory. For example, what you are seeking is a "unicorn" to fit into a prescribed "triad." This is often discussed here. We have a search function and posts going back to...

Hi and welcome, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team

It's okay. This sounds like a classic form of "hotwifing."

Just a terminology note: you, wife and other guy are in a V. Your wife's role is as the "hinge" of the V, while you two guys are the "arms" or "legs" of the V. A hinge needs certain relationship skills and they take time to develop. Personally, as the mother of three kids, once I began...