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This is rambling, because I'm still working it out myself. This is my first attempt at organizing my thoughts. THE SITUATION: Sir's parents invited me over for Thanksgiving. (I love that they did this.) His dad knows that He is poly, but doesn't know He continues to live that way His dad knows...

I'm in a poly relationship with my husband of 7years and my Daddy of 1 year. For me Polyamory is an orientation and I've been having wonderful rich relationships with my both partners. My partners date, all is well and when it isn't it doesn't take long for us to recover. Now, my conundrum...

I’m having a hell of a time with Sir’s girlfriend Grace. I’ll spare you the details, but it’s to a point that I may have to end the relationship with Sir because of their unhealthy dynamic. I wanted to read other people’s experiences to help me decide what my limits are, but was having...

I'm gonna reveal some not so great things I've discovered about myself in this post, but I'm trying to change my perspective I promise. My first relationship/friendship/metamour-ship didn't go so well. It went so not well that it contributed to Dean breaking up with Mary. There were several...

Dean and my 7th year anniversary is coming up. I really like anniversaries so we have a few. The anniversary of our first lunch date, our first real date, our legal marriage (we eloped) and our ceremonial marriage for his family. (They were pretty upset we eloped) The first two are coming up in...

I am getting curious about other people's housing arrangements. My husband and I currently share a room (always have), but as we continue our poly journey I am feeling the need for space of my own. I need a safe spot for me to do whatever I need to. I don't feel I have that now. My house...

I started this poly journey, I brought it to my husband. I chose this and now that Dean is dating I'm feeling myself withdraw from him. I feel hypocritical. I also feel like we are still heading towards a more fulfilling future. I'm not sure how to handle these thoughts and feelings. I'm feeling...

Dean is on a date right now. I'm going to bed. If he were out doing anything else I would text him goodnight. I'm wondering if texting him during his date would be intrusive or rude? I text Sir and a couple other people goodnight when I'm here with Dean. Is there a texting etiquette here? Is...

Dean listened to a podcast about openness in regards to your kids. It had most to do with situations that ended in custody battles between the parents and the grandparents that started with the kids just talking to grandma about mommy's boyfriend. So here's my situation: My mother is insane...

I get in these moods where I know I'm motivated by fear of being hurt by heartbreak. It shows up as a need for reassurance, that need makes me feel "needy" and I hate it. I'm a strong independent woman dammit, I don't "need" anything from anyone- except that I do, I need hugs and someone to...

I'm trying to make sense of some things, but I need help picking them apart. I need a good talk-think with people who know what I'm talking about. thank you in advance. I'm seeing MyDate fairly often, coming up on our 5th date. Here's what bothers me about that sentence: "fairly often" what...

Dean and I had a heart to heart, all good things, but something came up. Something I didn't have an answer for. When I first thought about Polyamory, long term love was my end game ( I agree that end game sounds weird but I can't think of a better term right now...goal, vision, fantasy?)...

The guy I've been going on dates with is going to pick me up for a date from my home Saturday. He's going to come in and have a drink with Dean. This guy has no kids, I have three, my house is a kid house. For the past couple days I've been trying to "adult" my house a bit more, like I would...

I'm not sure where this belongs so I'm going to post it here. On my life's journey it would have been so great to know certain things about myself before making big life choices. I lacked the self-awareness, the access to information, and the support. I committed my life to others before...

Dean and I had our first bump in the road (the road being our transition from a monogamous marriage to conscious polyamory). We both knew these types of things were going to happen. We knew despite our best intentions of talking out every detail the one of us would do something that the other...

When you've been conditioned to perceive jealousy as a sign of affection and hierarchy as a sign of importance in what ways could I convey to my partners their importance? In general actions and words, but with differing love languages to contend with I'm looking for some concrete ideas. This...

I've come across some things that I am either confused about or just plainly need more information about. I was hoping you could help point me in the right direction: Monogamous Conditioning Couples Privilege Relationship Anarchy

I came out to my interest and was rejected. It sucks. I was so vulnerable and my heart is broken. This is my first attempt so it's particularly painful. I feel yuck. He is the first interest I've proposed it to, "came out" to. He was good and he cares and it was all fine, but it hurts. It's...

I have a few questions about the arms of a "V": What kind of dynamics are seen between the arms of a "V"? I'm sure it presents itself in a lot of ways, what are the ways you've experienced? How does trust form between the arms of the "V"? I'm sensing an initial distrust between Dean and Blue...

I was hoping to make a list of Novels, Films or T.V. series that show Polyamory. This idea was sparked by a member asking me how I learned about Polyamory and I'm fairly certain I first found examples of it in film. Jules Et Jim came to mind and She Came To Stay. I most recently saw an example...