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That's great! I met my boyfriend's wife when she picked me up at the airport. We went lunch then home to surprise him! I stayed at their house for four days; he slept in the guest room with me. She was incredibly gracious and we got along great! So yes, definitely possible. Glad it went well for...

Wow, that's a tough one. Few questions... how old is your son? How long have you been in each of your two relationships and how long all living together? I assume your bf doesn't have any kids? How old are you (wondering if you have time to put having a child with bf off for now). The way I'm...

Very much enjoying following your story. I'm in a vee with a married couple, not a triad - but we have a number of similarities.

I'm confused about why you'd be against him finding a secondary relationship of his own. It seems like something that he's expressing interest in.

I am trying to wrap my head around this, but just cannot!

I'm also in a V, and close friends with my boyfriend's wife. I'd guess that lack of communication was the culprit. In the past, did you know ahead of time when they'd be together, instead of discovering them like that? Also, kid's bday parties (twins no less!) can be stressful. So maybe the...

It seems like being secondary isn't ok with you. I don't blame you; it wouldn't be for me either. I'm in a vee with a married couple (husband is the hinge - his wife and I quickly became dear friends). I'm not secondary, and his wife has referred to me as Co-primary from the beginning as she...

We've come up against this issue too. My boyfriend's wife and I are very close friends but the terminology is tough. She's not my best friend or sister; those roles are taken. Girlfriend implies a sexual relationship which isn't the case. Friend isn't enough. Sister wife is closest but implies...

How long does NRE last? Just wondering what time frame NRE commonly lasts. At what point is it just good chemistry in its own right? Our poly-fi vee is six months old but we're long distance, flying to visit once a month for four days. Does the LD part extend NRE?

Update? I just read all ten pages after finding this thread on a vee search. Doesn't sound workable. The guy sounds incredibly immature and selfish. Hard to figure out why either of the women involved would want him to begin with. Surely you can do better. It is clear that he cares for no one...

I'm in a vee with a married couple; he's the hinge. No one limits time but distance and finances do unfortunately. No limits on each others' physical relationships other than don't risk our safety by having unsafe sex outside our vee (which no one does anyway; we're happily closed). What are...

Your first post in this thread reminded me of my metamour the first time our hinge came to visit me out of state. (Her post on it is titled Missing Warm Fuzzies: Reward if Found.) He was here for four days, and two of those days were VERY tough on her. Both he and I did our best to support her...

Correct, both people don't have to be in other relationships to be poly. I'm in a vee so clearly the hinge (my boyfriend/her husband) is poly - in relationships with two women. But both she and I are mono with him only. So we're in a poly relationship but are mono ourselves.

I agree that your relationship should be strong and without any serious voids or issues before entering poly. Adding someone else to your relationship is risky if she feels she has an issue trusting you with her emotions. I am six months into a vee with a married man as the hinge. His wife...

I date a man who's married. One thing that he made clear from the beginning was that he kept no secrets from his wife and that if anyone ever brought up having a mono relationship with him (without her obviously) that we wouldn't have any more conversations after that. That is what happened to...

Finding a Valentine card that worked for my vee situation was a challenge!! I did find one that while not specifically for poly, certainly could apply. I was pretty happy to find it. I wonder if there are online shops that sell such things?

Seattle, Portland, San Fran and LA are all liberal/progressive so those make sense. Texas surprises me a bit but I haven't been there so it's just my impression. Again, just a guess but Vancouver BC wouldn't surprise me.

I understand a bit because I'm also in a vee with a married couple; he is the hinge and I'm very close friends with his wife. They live in another state so I don't get to see him/them near as much as I'd like. My suggestion is keeping busy with friends and activities you enjoy, stay in daily...

Almost two months since this thread started, and six months since TroisForte, R and I began. I thought I'd update for anyone who might be wondering whatever happened to us! Wasn't mentioned in this thread but TF bought me a ticket to fly out and visit them before R's trip here. So she and I had...

I don't ask questions with possible anawers that can hurt my feelings. My vee has transparency so if a question is asked, the answer would be truthful. Luckily we've agreed not to compare. I don't want to know if which of us is "better" at anything. If he and I are enjoying it, that is all we...