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  1. drtalon

    First Poly-Group Meeting(s)

    At lots of poly (and kink) socials I've attended, we don't even discuss poly (or kink). We're just people meeting up with people talking about whatever is relevant to us, which is only sometimes poly (or kink). I'm always surprised that so many people think attending a social is a big deal, as...
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    New Poly Couple

    http://polyevents.blogspot.com/#localgroups
  3. drtalon

    Hi, it's Natalia, creator of Showtime's "Polyamory: Married & Dating"

    Season 2 premieres this Thursday, 8/15 on Showtime.
  4. drtalon

    "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policies: Merged threads/General discussion

    I think I disagree, though I'm using 'consent' as in willingness rather than consent as in permission. Are you saying that relationships where not everyone is willingly participating should be called polyamorous?
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    "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policies: Merged threads/General discussion

    The 5 I list aren't meant to be a complete representation. Of course there are lots of places in between them, probably further past 1 and 5, too. I was just trying to summarize the different positions I'd heard so far.
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    "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policies: Merged threads/General discussion

    What does "don't ask, don't tell" (DADT) mean to you? I think what distinguishes DADT from other non-monogamous relationship styles is the importance of keeping other partners hidden. Consent is/can be involved, but it is a generic consent, rather than the specifically informed consent I...
  7. drtalon

    Rules for Safe Sex & Resources for STD risk

    "Rule" is a strong word, and when discussing this with OSO's and future potential partners, you might get better results with the word "agreement." I've found the biggest hurdle is determining whether a someone is willing to be serious about sexual health or prefers a "head-in-the-sand"...
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    Predator Poly Couples

    Could we get a link to the reddit post?
  9. drtalon

    Is it right for a poly person to try to convert a monogamous person to polyamory?

    IMO, educating people about alternatives is good. Being enthusiastic about your beliefs is good. Thinking your way is the right way for everyone leads to the dark side of proselytizing.
  10. drtalon

    At wits end

    I'm not saying you should do what I would do, but I would find a divorce lawyer.
  11. drtalon

    Hi, it's Natalia, creator of Showtime's "Polyamory: Married & Dating"

    She was slightly more responsive on reddit. http://www.reddit.com/user/directornatalia
  12. drtalon

    Advice on Poly Relationship Rules & Guidelines

    My advice to you is that relationships are something that are built over months and years, not days and weeks. Learn about NRE. Testing and safety are something you (ought to) think about before having sex, which is hopefully way before you think about moving in together. Rules about...
  13. drtalon

    What happened to 'advice for a dyad' thread?

    http://www.polyamory.com/forum/.... I'd like to hear from the mod that did whatever was done, or a mod with direct knowledge.
  14. drtalon

    How do you find poly people??????

    For how to find local groups, I think the best advice is at the bottom of Alan's events page at http://polyevents.blogspot.com/
  15. drtalon

    New to Poly

    How did she play with your emotions? How long were the three of you dating?
  16. drtalon

    New to Poly

    Good luck! Here's some more advice from http://www.morethantwo.com/polytips.html - Don't coerce your relationships into a predefined shape; let them be what they are Sometimes, people--particularly people who are already part of an established couple--decide what kind of relationship they...
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    New to Poly

    Have you read Franklin Veaux's site, especially the parts about jealousy? http://www.morethantwo.com/jealousy-insecurity.html
  18. drtalon

    Hello, I'm new here

    It's not half-poly if she's only in a relationship with you, nor "full poly" if she's in a triad with you and your husband. The only criteria for being poly, is being open to the possibility of multiple romantic relationships with the informed consent of everyone involved. Good luck with things!
  19. drtalon

    Cuddle Parties?

    The pajamas thing is weird and unnecessary, but cuddle parties seem fine to me otherwise. I attended Reid's session at Loving More 2011 in Phila, and thought it was very good. That didn't include anything cuddle-related, but did include parts about consent and overcoming our own fears and...
  20. drtalon

    Serial Monogamy

    When people say 'serial monogamy' I think they mean this.
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