You are still not hearing me
and I may not be able to put it into words, I am not saying that it is OK for a woman to molest a man, or rape him for any reason because yes, a woman can rape a man, I just see rape -- one of the worst crimes a person can commit -- as being an invasion of private space that they he knows the owner does not want him in there, but he does it anyway simply because he can.
It has a lot to do with no respecting sovereignty of others whom he can overpower
There is a night and day difference between a man who does not rape another person because he cannot over power another and a man who does not rape another because he acknowledges that every person deserves someplace of their own that nobody can force themselves into and do what they want. Everybody deserves a place where they are the absolute authority of what is allowed, and those who do not respect sacred spaces are not human, they are animals.
Nobody has to agree with me, but I know for a fact that the female gender is leaps and bounds ahead of the male gender in terms of being able to understand the concepts that I am speaking of, it takes a very unique male to understand how to remove the blinders, and sort out what is truth and what is testosterone influenced fictional truth.
Because MOST of the world problems, and without any doubt every problem that includes violence or homocide, if totally a completely a problem that is hands down perpetrated by men.
Yes, there are some women who commit the wrongs and these crimes, but when 99% of the crimes that take place are carried out by men, It is OK to say it is a male problem.
Females and males are different, they are not equal, it is viewing the world with an honest understanding of what is right and wrong that so very few species are ever able to understand.
And supposedly human beings are smart enough, intelligent enough that the males can be included in society and not banned as they are in the order Hymenoptera, I guess we'll found out.
and as far as your example of your friend who was traumatized Brigids, I am sorry, and knowing how hard it is to overcome that you understand why I take these topics so seriously. It isn't that i think you don't understand, what set me off was mistakenly associating the whole "males can't be raped if the woman inserts his erect penis inside of her" had something to do with arousal, and rape has nothing to do with whether or not the victim is aroused, and it has everything to do with respect of a person's authority over their personal, most private and sacred spaces.
You would know better than I, but I suspect his wife would have not engaged him in sex if she had known, sometimes the crimes are perpetrated through innocence, as being oblivious to reality is not the same as choosing to be ignorant or not caring enough to ask. When I spoke of my behavior, I mean being drunk and having sex with a drunk woman who I had already been intimate with for many years, I DID NOT and I have never taken advantage of or intentionally got a woman drunk, or even if she got was already drunk, I have never used alcohol effect of lowering inhibitions in order to have sex. What I meant was that because I am male, I am held to a higher responsibility to ensure that anytime I have sex, THAT I KNOW IT IS THE WILL OF MY PARTNER TO DECIDE TO HAVE SEX, and even though I was "seeing" a woman, it is still always the male who is ultimately responsible to make sure he is not violating his partner.
Does your friend consider his wife a rapist?
I doubt he thinks she would have followed through if she had known it was unwanted
In fact the mentality from being sexually abused probably does a better job explaining what I am talking about, and it was that damaging abuse as a child that prevented him from doing from refusing to make his own decision and not be forced against his will
The constant attitude projected at women throughout history and even during these days in 2013 DOES AFFECT THE MINDS OF WOMEN AND IT TAKES A VERY KNOWLEDGEABLE WOMAN TO BE ABLE TO UNDO THAT DAMAGE
it has also also affected the minds of men, as it baffles me that anyone could ever be so fucked up in the view of the world that educating women to recognize and avoid the situations that predators are known to take advantage of can be seen as "victim blaming"
and I can't apologize Vixtoria, but the world does not need your permission to have possession and knowledge of the TRUTH, and it if you call it having it both ways, so be it. As any name you give it that is how it is, even though you are having trouble understanding how it is right.
There is no way twist it into something that is wrong, not without changing it. Because yes sexual assault, even lesser crimes than rape will always be wrong, but women do need get out of jail free cards because they so very rarely commit such crimes.