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I don't think that I know any couple who spends nearly this much time together - and I know quite a few couples who love each other very much. What's up with all of this together time? 90% is a LOT.

She's not passive aggressive in the slightest. Seems like she's plenty clear about what she wants, what she doesn't want and what the consequences are. Wondering why you've chosen to involve yourself with someone who very clearly doesn't share your values.

Since you're all about micro-managed transactional relationship ships, what value do you see in this polyamory discussion community? In polyamory, the focus is love. Your focus seems to take love completely off the table. Wondering what purpose you have in being here. :unsure:

Are you hearing "I never want to see you again" when he suggests that you meet once a month?

The first order of business in a healthy relationship is to be aware of how I feel and to embrace how I feel. Looking to my parter and to others to tell me how I "should" feel or whether it's OK to feel, is already starting on shifting sands - the opposite of emotional stability. Are you wrong...

At whom are you directing your comments?

This is the most important question.

Someone who drinks to blacking out (not remembering) definitely has a significant drinking problem. Feel free to message me if you'd like to talk about Al-Anon, which is a program for people who have an alcoholic loved one - or have/had any problem drinker in their life. All of the wonderful...

Clearly, your BF doesn't understand how people work. My guess is that polyamory is only one of many areas in which your BF finds it difficult to be close, communicative and vulnerable.

OK, so you're back together because you're insanely attracted to her and presumably care for her. (I'm not judging - been there!) Now what? She didn't enjoy that gangbang so much but there are plenty of group situations and infinitely more people who very well would be much more pleasing for...

Ya, this never ever, ever, ever works. It's amazing how many of us keep trying to do it.

This is the very definition of romantic monogamy and the opposite of polyamory.

You've told us multiple times that your marriage is not fulfilling and not sexual, but insist that's OK because you have a Buddhist outlook on life now. Really?? Behavior often belies what we claim to be true and behavior often reveals what words cannot. Your behavior was to seek a sexual...

It's always helped me to think of polyamory as a love style, not a lifestyle or a scene. Just a thought.

You're looking specifically for men in their 20s?

This is a beautiful, loving thing if the person wants to be checked on. Not a good thing if your checking comes from insecurity and fear. Terrible if the person does not want to be checked up on. Does he want to be checked on by you?

Are you sad because you're not seeing her or are you sad because she is choosing to spend time with another guy? If she were away on a work assignment, would you be as gutted? Likely not. It's important for you to be honest with yourself about whether you want this kind of relationship. I...

This would be a big giant flapping red flag for me. Guys who are offended and overly attached to "making" their parter orgasm have a lot of internal conflict going on that I am in no position to help them with. In this set-up, I am not free to explore my sexuality, I exist only to perform for...

"Nymphomania" is not a diagnosis in the DSM-5. What kind of clinic gave her this dx?

Not to pick nits, but to clarify what polyamory is all about: Mags brings up a good point that there's no such thing as "light poly." In a partnership, you either agree that love with others is desirable or you agree that love with others is a deal breaker. There's really no such thing as...