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Thank you for your input GalaGirl. I really appreciate it. Your comments have given me more to think on for sure. As I learn to trust myself more again especially, your comment on jumping to conclusions really touches a spot that I was ignoring.

thanks - I added the issue now

Brief background: I haven't been here in ages and it's been a crazy time for me. Long story short, I've had so much opportunity for personal growth and have been working really hard on correcting all the bad habits learnt over a life time of monogamous and ultra religious programming that left...

Last weekend my girlfriend proposed to her partner of 8 years (he is also in a newly developing relationship with me). I am totally thrilled for them... but I found it really tricky to share my excitement with the majority of my friends (those that know of my relationships thought it so odd that...

Thank you all for the responses :) I'm thinking on things and suspect this is the way for me too now. Nycindie: I giggled at your gentle reference to being a third; that whole couple privilege is not something I think I could /would want to be a part of either. And right now cohabitation seems...

Awesome resource! Thank you :)

Is it possible to be solo in theory and in say a triad or part of another poly configuration? And yes i am totally aware that this seems more about labels and fitting what may be into explicable terms, but I'd love to discuss the solo poly idea in more detail. Any other information that may...

Nooooo... my mom knows nothing about my poly life or that I am bisexual. I doubt I can ever tell her sadly...

OK so I have three kids, she has one. We each have a full time live in primary relationship. This last week we went for dinner and realised that we have limited options for after dinner space to hang out, cuddle, or anything else. Yes we can wait till kids at either home are sleeping.... As...

For those with young kids in the house, how do you find space to be openly relaxed with partners (other than your primary)? It's fine waiting for kids to fall asleep, but proving an interesting problem solving requirement as to how we could find space to just be together. Any ideas and...

Thanks everyone for your kind and thoughtful words! I gathered a lot of insight here. And the words and advice here have helped me better sift through my emotions and feelings and realise which is actual attraction and which is just close friendship. Thank you GreenAcres for this!) Spork...

Yes, I'm totally new to this, just starting out into my first poly connection. what an incredible way to start a relationship! Discussion, friendship, communication and knowing that both our other partners know (and accept) that we are together made/makes it so much better! Even seeing her...

yay to the return of the sexy fun times all round!! whoohoo :) Your happiness and excitement comes through beautifully in your writing - It's enjoyable reading about the fun times and the sad times and the beautiful times just being together with people you love and enjoy.

The apartment sounds like it already has your stamp of coziness in it! :) And yeah my kids wouldn't care about much around them as long as they had their laptops! haha The snow sounds crazy - you guys are supposed to be in Spring now! I hope you can get your plans to happen as they need to!

haha - I love you guys! The validation that my new normal is totally okay is just what I needed to remind myself of why I chose to acknowledge this desire to love more in the first place. :) And it does make sense GalaGirl - my close friends are people I share connections with already...

I'm giggling at the 5 guys conversation and smiling at the GWAR boy being found - how cool is it that you could put this all together like this?!! Are you all unpacked and settled in now?

So my poly life seems to be starting up in earnest now. I've been on a couple of dates with people I met online... My question is: Is it normal to contemplate relationships with good friends who are supportive of my poly lifestyle choice? Both those who identify as actually poly and those...

After another intense email exchange with Wonder Woman, I am feeling I have more closure of sorts... Or at least, more understanding of her decision. And so it triggered a discussion with Rock about me specifically starting to look for an opportunity to explore my attraction to women. He...

Yes that's exactly it!! Being someone's everything, especially if they cannot reciprocate at all is hard work! And requires so much of your inner you that often I feel entirely drained but it's still not enough to touch sides for him. Thank you for sharing your story, it helps to know...

This is so me too! And CTF - you sound much like my husband sounds. Helps with perspective that's for sure