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Yes, correct, it does make me feel insecure about where I stand with her. I agree with your recommendation and have already blocked her on social media. I didn’t want it to come to that but it’s I’m using up entirely too much emotional energy on it. Thanks Kevin :)

Thanks for your comments. Please let me clarify Yes, I definitely don’t expect her to be posting all over social media about me etc. I don’t think I ever said anything about me taking issue with her posting pictures with her partners or anything like that. I’m talking about specific plans...

I appreciate your perspective, thanks for your comments.

Got it 👍🏻

Hi, thanks for your comment. Yes, my relationship with Moose did start as a secondary relationship and then turned into a co-primary relationship around year 3 with everyone’s blessing, including my ex-husband. Similar to the evolution of Hawk and Badger’s relationship. From secondary to...

Well, even the Queen can’t always have her way, or she will lose her followers. If Badger doesn’t include me, this affects Moose in a negative way and that could damage their relationship. Life is full of give and take and I think inclusion and kindness are the best path forward. Your advice...

Thank you SO much, this is so so helpful :)

Thanks Kevin- your words are very helpful :) I just finished up having a lovely dinner with my polycule and per usual Moose invited me along to what Badger had posted about on social media. And Badger overheard him inviting me and says enthusiastically “oh yeah, you should definitely come...

Thanks for writing Kevin :) You might be right that she would prefer more of a parallel thing with me but it’s definitely not what we’ve been doing for the last few years or how she conducts her own poly relationships with Moose and Hawk. I think if it came down to that being the case, I would...

Yeah, I’m not spending less time at all, definitely more time now with the pandemic. My partner has done a good job of including me- I really can’t imagine asking him for anything else. This is one of many many times (like 100) something like this has happened over the last few years, but it’s...

Thank you for the advice. So, your sense is that she is doing this on purpose and that by talking directly to her will not help the situation, but make it worse? I know the mainstream poly advice is to go through your hinge but that always feels passive aggressive to me? Do you know what I mean?

Hi, thanks for your reply. I should clarify a few things- yes, I did move to their city about a year ago but before that I only lived 15 minutes drive away... and now I live 2 blocks away. So, it’s not like me and Moose had a long distance relationship before and Badger never saw me. The actual...

Hi all! Looking for advice! A lot has happened since I started my poly journey 5 years ago! I’m still with the same partner I met over 4 years ago but have since divorced my husband with whom this journey started. (That’s a long story that doesn’t pertain to my current situation and our break...

I don't think there is necessarily a right answer to my question but I am curious to get others opinions on when is the right time to have an overnight date with a new partner when there are small children involved. Would you want your children (lets say 5 & 8 years old) to meet the person...

Hello everyone, Been a while since I posted. I have a question for you all. So, my husband (of 14 years) has been with a new partner (lets call her Dollface) for less than 6 months now, they are in love and have decided to stop using protection after both having negative STI testing. I told my...

I'm my original post, when I was thinking of stability - I was thinking of longevity yes, but not an unhappy partnership that stays together just for the sake of "till death do you part". I'm my own experience, the main thing that wasn't working for us was monogamy - the rest was pretty awesome...

So glad I posted the original question. All of these responses And different perspectives have been very interesting and much appreciated! Thank you!

I like what you said, thanks! Some very good points!

Thanks Kevin for your point of view. I think my question was too broad for any kind of black and white answer and I think the other folks who have responded are right in that it totally depends on each relationship/couple. I guess I was just thinking about it in terms of all the "monogamous"...